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  1. She's playing you like a fiddle... juggling two...

    She's playing you like a fiddle... juggling two guys at once and your there just letting it happen. Sure she says she loves you.. but anyone can say that.. heck I can say I love you too? See? Easy?....
  2. No one said no contact would be easy. But its an...

    No one said no contact would be easy. But its an alternative that will save you from much pain later on. In order to be just friends... truly only friends... you have to ask yourself "are you okay...
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    He has a good head on his shoulders then. But in...

    He has a good head on his shoulders then. But in essence, you do what is best for you. If you think you can handle just being friends then go that route (but if the break up is fresh I doubt you can...
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    Hi shortie, You do what's best for you. He's...

    Hi shortie,

    You do what's best for you. He's expecting you to wait for him, which unfortunately is not a good idea since you can be waiting for months or years. Staying friends will just keep you...
  5. Bordem can come from spending wayyy too much time...

    Bordem can come from spending wayyy too much time together. Perhaps try spending more time apart to hang out with others. This will help keep things interesting.
  6. If you keep going the way your going.. it will...

    If you keep going the way your going.. it will drag out for a very very long time.. trust me... and once you try to talk to them about getting back together.. you get the same answer.. "im not...
  7. If you want to go with what's socially...

    If you want to go with what's socially acceptable... minimum age seems to be half your age +7 haha.
  8. Hey tomk, As a guy that has been in a similar...

    Hey tomk,

    As a guy that has been in a similar situation I think what you did was the right thing to do. Right now she's calling all the shots without any real consideration on what its doing to...
  9. You have to get over the break up and over her...

    You have to get over the break up and over her first before any form of true friendship can occur. If you guys stay friends and she gets a new boyfriend how will you react? Save yourself the pain by...
  10. Sorry bud, your just going to have try to move...

    Sorry bud, your just going to have try to move on.. dont wait around.. trust me.. you'll regret it... why fight for someone who isn't willing to fight for you?
  11. Because what you are is comfortable... she wants...

    Because what you are is comfortable... she wants you there as she transitions her way out. I know its hard to believe... but in the end you will always get the same answer "i need time".. as hard as...
  12. Wow.. this is exactly what was going on with my...

    Wow.. this is exactly what was going on with my ex. Trust me it will take a heck of a lot more time for them to figure out what they want. I got the hugging kissing one day, no touching the next, it...
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    Hey there, yes no contact is probably the right...

    Hey there, yes no contact is probably the right way to go right now. He has told you essentially he wants space. I know it can be tough in the beginning, trust me, even I didn't go no contact right...
  14. Defintely disappear and just focus on you you...

    Defintely disappear and just focus on you you you!. the fact she's dating someone so soon after a 5 year relationship is reason enough to wipe her out of your life forever. You have a good head on...
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    You end it if your unhappy.. that's all there is...

    You end it if your unhappy.. that's all there is to it... "grow a pair" as they say. If they don't know how to end it without the other person they have gotten to dependent and have to figure out how...
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    What is the point in having a girlfriend or...

    What is the point in having a girlfriend or boyfriend if your just going to pursue others... there is none.
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    I disagree completely on pursuing a girl while...

    I disagree completely on pursuing a girl while your in a relationship with another. If it were the other way around I doubt you'd like it too much. Show some respect. If your not happy in your...
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    From time to time I wonder if I should reach out...

    From time to time I wonder if I should reach out the ex too. However, do I really want to ruin all my progress? Not really. When you can truly say to yourself, I truly only want to be friends and...
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    From what I see, since you are in the military...

    From what I see, since you are in the military you are bound to have a lot of guy friends. Your boyfriend sounds like he'll constantly be jealous of them. This relationship is doomed to failure...
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    If you do send a card, do be straightforward and...

    If you do send a card, do be straightforward and not expect anything.
  21. Your going to drive yourself mad by staying in...

    Your going to drive yourself mad by staying in contact. Cut her out till you heal completely. Only then can you truly be only friends. Being friends will not work as long as you still have those...
  22. I understand how you feel buddy. The thing is,...

    I understand how you feel buddy. The thing is, she still broke up with you and is probably hoping that you'll wait till she "makes up her mind". What will this lead to? You in limbo and...
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    Why would you settle for anything but yes? So she...

    Why would you settle for anything but yes? So she can still see other people if your not official? I rather have a girlfriend that has both feet through the door rather than one.
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    You leave her alone and if she comes asking to...

    You leave her alone and if she comes asking to try again that's when you should consider may be getting back after thinking it over very thoroughly if its in your best interest. Why do you have to...
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    You remind me of me 7-8 months ago haha. Trust...

    You remind me of me 7-8 months ago haha. Trust that no contact is the best way to go, keeps you from getting confused and the build up of false hope. I wish you the best! Them wanting you wait while...
  26. I never really understood how people can say "i...

    I never really understood how people can say "i love you" and not want to be with the person. I guess it's the distinction of love and being in love. You have to tell him straight up you don't see...
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    Update! Hey guys long time no talk.. well its...

    Update! Hey guys long time no talk.. well its been like 7 months and I've finally deleted her off Facebook lol.. I really didn't find a need to have her on it.. and she won't be able to contact me...
  28. He's trying to keep you as a safety net. He wants...

    He's trying to keep you as a safety net. He wants to explore, while keeping you and trying to make sure you don't look for anyone else in the process. This is the definition of selfishness. No...
  29. yes, no contact, never just settle look for the...

    yes, no contact, never just settle look for the best. Cheating is never acceptable in my opinion. Disappear from her life and find someone 10x better. She'll probably come crawling back after a...
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    You change your way of thinking. Do things that...

    You change your way of thinking. Do things that you would not normally do (take dancing classes, go climb a mountain, join a rec team etc). Make it a goal to talk to one new person a day. Believe...
  31. Don't get abs just because she wants you to... if...

    Don't get abs just because she wants you to... if she told you she loves scars would you cut yourself? (bridge analogy way overused) haha.. but you get the point. First it will be abs, and then it...
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    Haha nice.. I know people say, if she wants you...

    Haha nice.. I know people say, if she wants you she'll let you know.. by coming to your house door or calling you etc etc.. anything less is not worth responding to.. but I guess its normal to think...
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    Hey all! well its been quite a while since I last...

    Hey all! well its been quite a while since I last updated haha.. okay so my ex is now recently starting to message me on Facebook once in a while (like once a month) after I told her to not contact...
  34. No contact, avoid the friend zone, heal and try...

    No contact, avoid the friend zone, heal and try to move on.. if she wants you she'll find you. Keep busy.. the first month or two are the hardest I wish you luck.
  35. The fact he slept with you while he was still...

    The fact he slept with you while he was still with his ex is reason enough not to pursue a further relationship. If he can do it to his ex he can do it to you as well. Your not a bad person to have...
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    The fact that he keep nude pics and videos of his...

    The fact that he keep nude pics and videos of his ex is suspicious in itself especially if its while you guys were together. I'd be very wary. He's not being 100% honest with you, seems like he's...
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    I just read your story torrid, your boyfriend...

    I just read your story torrid, your boyfriend broke up with you around the same time my girlfriend broke up with me haha.. no contact ftw! The ex always tries to see what's happening in your life...
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    Lol torrid you made me laugh. Just in case you do...

    Lol torrid you made me laugh. Just in case you do feel the urge.. trust me.. there is nothing you can say or do that will change her mind. The only thing that you CAN do is block her out of your life...
  39. Me and my ex's anniv was on July 22... I didn't...

    Me and my ex's anniv was on July 22... I didn't text or anything.. I think she tried to reach out to me (or it could be my mind playing with my head) as my friend said her fb status said "today is a...
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    I think what everyone is getting at is the motive...

    I think what everyone is getting at is the motive behind wanting him back. Does she really want him back? Or is she just jealous he is with someone else? If she does get him back.. are the problems...
  41. My ex told me space etc.. being to dependent on...

    My ex told me space etc.. being to dependent on each other.. she contacted me and wanted to hang out.. missed me love me but doesn't want to be with me.. same story.. I highly suggest you don't see...
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    Hope so to :) hehe. Well its kind of mildly...

    Hope so to :) hehe. Well its kind of mildly depressing. A part of me wonders if things might've been different if I stayed in contact. But que sera sera, I'll try to enjoy life as best I can.. can't...
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    Update: well I think my ex is seeing someone...

    Update: well I think my ex is seeing someone courtesy of mutual friend (though I think my ex is trying to hide it).. funny how they say.. oh I don't plan on seeing someone or have flings.. but I just...
  44. Do what you got to do, the longer you wait the...

    Do what you got to do, the longer you wait the worse it will be. I'd say try to communicate as much as possible first before you lay out the news. Also, seek out any alternatives. I feel my ex...
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    Hey all, hmm seems I'm full of questions today...

    Hey all, hmm seems I'm full of questions today haha.. so another thing has come up.. her friends once in a while talk about me and what I've been up to and everything. How should I properly respond...
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    Thanks guys, it really cleared some conflict in...

    Thanks guys, it really cleared some conflict in my mind much appreciated :) continuing forward I go!
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    Ahhh I kind of see what you guys are getting at....

    Ahhh I kind of see what you guys are getting at. If she really wanted to be with me she would be willing to work through my faults instead of just breaking up with me because of them since that's...
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    And paxe, that's the problem in my mind "if she...

    And paxe, that's the problem in my mind "if she wants you, she'll come back" But that's why I feel the clarification of certain misunderstandings would help her decide that.. its like "here, have all...
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    Ahha yes.. damn these mind tricks.. guess all I...

    Ahha yes.. damn these mind tricks.. guess all I really needed to do was vent out and now the feeling to contact her has passed thanks goodness
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    paxe, essentially what it seems is that she...

    paxe, essentially what it seems is that she wanted to break up because we've lost our individual indentities, and ended up very dependent on each other, I think her plan was find our indentities and...
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