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Ok, so I spoke to her... not sure if it was a bad move.. I know you will say something about false hope etc but hear me out.

I told her coming wasn't the best idea, blew her off for coming that...

Ok, so just as I thought - no call back.

Would you delete her number and her as a blackberry messenger contact too or just leave it and not do anything? She has been on there since I stopped...

Been some time since I have written here..

Little update and concern:

So its been pretty much a month of NC, doing fine not called her etc. Feeling better about everything and myself and the...

Exactly - just go have a good time and see how things go.

No point asking yourself all these questions, you are absolutely fine and normal in feeling how you do.

Just have fun :)

Exactly no reason to panic, if he likes you he will call you - if not you had a good night :)

Coming up to 3 weeks for me now, got my friends to come down for valentines and we partied.. Also, instead of spending money on a girl I bought myself a new TV.. ahhh the single life :p

I KNOW!! Your brother?

Just the alone warrants you to slam the door behind you as you run... far far away, you really can do better.

P.S. There is no excuse for flirting with your partner's...

Just a note - just because she had a one night stand with someone doesn't necessarily mean she was over you. She must have felt insecure, sad, hurt, broken, out of place, unloved, unappreciated and...

Agreeing with tal here Easyrider - you devastated her when you left after a relationship with 5 years, but what you have to remember is you KNEW you were going to do this so were fine with dealing...

Look I know you both have feelings for each other but you should be happy that she calls you and comes to you not her on/off boyfriend.. She obviously has feelings for you, it may be the case she...

You are in a horrible position here, not knowing for me, just like it seems for you is worse than knowing. I'm the type of guy who has to have things clear cut and defined, if I don't know an answer...

Kev,

Nobody knows if you two will ever get back together - you dropped 2 huge bombshells, one which broke her heart and one which just made her more confused than ever. She must be going through...

Flirting with your brother? - huge red flag, in fact its worse than a red flag - it's the worst flag ever.

It seems she is distancing herself from you, and I'm sorry to say this because you aren't...

Reading the post I feel you have made the right decision - it seems to me that if you guys were to get back together you would constantly feel some sort of resentment, become further jealous to any...

Perfect dolls: I sympathise with your situation so much. Being Muslim (male) myself I can totally understand where you are coming from.

Having lived in London for 19 years and being born in the...

Good on you!

Props for getting rid - not spending your valentines day for such a ridiculous reason and not even making up for it is unheard of. Obviously not someone to spend the rest of your...

Have to agree with the rest. I know you feel bad, and rightfully so, you are emotionally cheating on your husband when he should be the only guy on your mind - nothing should change that.

People...

Any update... this sounds very similar to how I started to go out with my ex..

How does she react the next day after you spent the night together and ended up kissing.. Does she talk about it or...

Let her go - she isn't for you that's clear cut

Kind of already got myself into meeting up with her etc.. Will probably go for a coffee or a quick drink, so not meeting up is impossible

Of course I am going to treat them with respect, nobody...

Couldn't give you rep but AMEN - I chose to say nothing otherwise Iwould have got very pissed off

I really don't know what to say to you after reading that last post you made.

Saying nothing may be best

I am shocked. In comparison to some problems on here and some things people can't deal with yours make them seem insignificant.

YOUR WIFE?! She tells her ex that she misses him and loves him and...

3 months isn't long - get used to each other and enjoy yourselves, there is no rush at all!

Once things become more long term you can think about this more - for now just see how things develop...

Just invite him out, he is a shy guy - he just needs a little nudge in the right direction... So far he is the only one who has instigated plans.

First with teaching you our quiz thing
Second...

ka1 - read the stickies at the top of the forum, they helped and are helping a lot going through my break up

You have to accept how they feel, because they is nothing you can do to change how they...

Come on! The fun of dating is figuring out all of the stuff you want to know.

Just like dare said, enjoy the experience and there is absolutely no need to rush things - especially seeing as you...

Stuart,

At the moment although you guys may love each other because of the history you shared, it just isn't the case anymore. To get rid of your feelings you need to not only continue doing NC,...

I really do. Until she comes back with something concrete that you can react and talk about - continue doing what you were doing and concentrate on yourself.

Live for yourself and if she comes...

Incredible - I'm at your stage of taking it chilled and going on dates - good on you mate.

Come a long way - enjoy

I don't understand girls who let guys do this - no wonder when you get around to the nice guys you are always so scared!

Get out of it for your sake.

Hmmm, you broke NC..

Im a little scared for you, because if I emailed my ex and broke NC and she made a huge reply, I would probably reply but where does this leave you now? You felt sad after...

I think you already knew the answer to your question before posting it..

Of course you don't tell him - that would be incredibly selfish and wrong..

You should write it in a letter - clear, lucid, succint. That's the way I would approach it if I needed to get this off my chest to help me move on.

In fact with my ex, I gave her a letter...

Man up, get busy and do not contact - just little things here and there.

Asking for a break is never ever a good thing - in a relationship its usually the other half that helps you get through the...

All comes down to whether you trust him.

This will not be the last time you hear something like this, it's a common thing - and especially given that this other girl hates you..

If you have...

Cute story, my brother and I were dating two sisters at the same time - it's a good thing to have. She will most definitely need her space, do not be forward at all right now, the best possible thing...

Smurf,

This is a confusing story - why would one of your best friends sleep with your ex girlfriend? I swear exes are no-no's...

Anyway, what you need to ask yourself is, are you willing to...

RUN RUN RUN - please for the sake of your sanity

I wouldn't be surprised if she has been hiding a guy in her closet..

Run now or prepare yourself for the worst

Sorry to say but the others have got it right. It is an unfortunate set of circumstances. She may love you, but if she isn't over her ex and is still chilling with him - your place in this trio is...

Try hard not to fall into the friends only zone, do not act with him exactly how you act with all your friends because that will lead to it being awkward when and if something happens between you...

I find it more difficult to sleep with someone next to me and it almost always gets amazingly hot. I wouldn't read too much into it

This isn't going to be easy. It is going to be the hardest thing ever, but you really aren't alone here. Im almost 2 weeks into no contact after a horrible break up and I am already realising that...

Ceddie,

I would start running I were you, and don't ever look back. You are way too good for that. You get setting yourself up just to get shot down again. The more you do this, one day you will...

Coming up to 2 weeks and I am going good.

Thought about her this weekend but not as much as usual - got with someone she hates, not because she hates her but just because she was there.. Sorry to...

First off, this guy sounds like a jerk but then again sounds like just about 80% of the guys out there...

He doesn't sound like good news and it is clear that he says you as a booty call. Yes,...

Im sorry, but you left your girlfriend of 9 years in the blink of an eye. Sorry to be rude but its guys like you that leave girls feeling insecure and unhappy with themselves.

You got up and left...

I am going to be biased in whatever I say because my ex led me on while having feelings for another person. She had known me for 5 years, long long history, we were in love way before we even started...

No need to hurry - you will kiss when the moment comes and holds hands when it seems normal - she had a hard long distance relationship, it is normal that she isn't rushing or not doing anything..
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If you were okay with it would you really be on here asking what you should do.

Just because we don't think you should accept the behaviour and your boyfriend is being a little out of order...