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Broken_heart... Leave him alone. I think our previous advice has been clear; go with no contact and stay with no contact. You will set yourself up for failure time and time again. He's romantically...

Good of you that you have expressed him your true feelings. Its about time however after 8/9 years! Now you got his answer and you must accept/trust him that he means this. No backdoor, potential...

Hi talaniman! Ha, all the relationship people here! ;-). Cheers guys. I definitely like the first one but that ain't easy to build it seems. I think I'm gonna pay Ikea a visit

Right, loft bed is pretty much the same as a high sleeper according to Google. The thing I like about a mezzanine is that it doesn't have the obstructive poles in the middle of the room, but I think...

Hi There,

I just moved into my small cozy studio of 30m2. It has got high ceilings (3 meter), so to utilise space I was thinking of building a small bedrooom mezzanine. I might just go for a high...

Btw I'm 29 now

Hello.

I write here to homefully get some more advice. I've visited a range of doctors, done blood tests and diets. I'm suspecting the cause is mold allergy.

Any expert opinions perhaps or some...

Have you talked to her yet? How did it go

Anyone? Thanks

I wish you luck. I majorly regretted my breakup with my ex. Even though I was the one that broke up I spiraled in a major depression. She has moved on since. I'm still recovering (1 year since our...

As the title says. We 'separated' 7 years ago after a short whirlwind romance due to circumstances. We never 'broke up'. She was the sister of my brothers girlfriend at the time (now ex), and I met...

Anti-Depressants are Desirel (Trazodone HCl 50mg), I took them not too long and irregularly, because I was worried about their addiction etc. and I was feeling better back home with my parents, but...

I am taking the courage to get professional help. I got anti-depressants and I'm seeing a psychologist. Your advice Talaniman; Shut up, listen and do as you're told I can practice for very short...

Thank you for these answers Talaniman. Very helpful

Very deep insights Talaniman (sorry I shouldn't have made a 2nd comment)

I thank you for these and would like to ask you to explain a bit...

Talaniman, you are absolutely right.

My problem is why I do that. Why have I become so very selfish, want things my way, and refuse to really give myself. I am somehow scared. I was scare with my...

Thanks Talaniman. Yes a lot are panic attacks, I don't exactly know why I do it. I have a real problem letting go. Even over the holidays it wasn't all that fun, even at (my parents) home I still...

I know what you mean, we lived together for 2 years, and I liked my space now and then, and it worked cause she worked irregular times. But the permanent loss/her being gone is a whole different...

Omg those must have been some seriously difficult times for you. I'm sorry. But yes, it shows you can get through it.

What I find so difficult is to break away from life being 'the same'....

How in Gods name can I live alone happily then now. My experience in live is that your happiness IS dependent on people partially, a big partially.. How do I create enough self-worth to be happy by...

It's absolutely excruciating. I just got back home and have survived 2 days with a rebound lady but it's seriously going downhill again. First day at work reminded me of everything again. Absolute...

Mornings are so hard. I don't understand it but still every single morning after 7 months I wake up desperately wanting her back. Irony is that I was the one breaking up, now seriously regretting it...

Thanks 44loo for the response. I am having counseling on the breakup part, I am considering counceling on possible more deep rooted problems (eg psychotherapy). I am doing fairly well now as I'm in...

Post-breakup 7 months after 2.5 year relationship. It was my first long term relationship and I'm 28. I consider myself depressed and weak in mind and motivation. My friends and family are saying it...

Wanted to give you a thumbs up but can't. Thanks Talaniman I will work on it, friends and hobbies I have, but I feel I'm driving them away with my problem of letting this go. You are right, I have to...

Thanks for the answers Snakenath and Talaniman. Wow, last response is already 1 month ago and I'm in a worse place than ever. I need help. I thought that dating new women would help but it only makes...

Please, I so want you to win that bet Alty!

Thanks a lot for your responses guys. This is a bit of additional blabbering, sorry for it being long... I find it hard to understand how letting go/accepting emotional traumatic changes really...

Ok, it's post-break up 4 months, and I have hardly made any real progress. I dated 2 women. The first was an interesting prospect but she didn't want to continue as she was leaving the country to...

All I can say is to hang in tight there, buddy. Avoid contact. Unless you both (she) make the conscious choice of getting back together there's no saving your relationship. She must have had her...

How long have you both been together before you broke up? Her having 2nd thoughts on the reunion isn't unusual, because obviously you broke up for reasons. You don't have to worry that you acting out...

Nop, I've read the whole thread; you're not alone. Sorry to hear about your loss and even though you're going through some serious rough times kudos for doing things to keep yourself busy and...

Sorry, but Wondergirls examples really cracked me up. I only have one experience of dementia and that is with my passed grandma (92 yrs old!) who lived in with us during her last few years.

She...

I think you're overreacting. Trust him a little bit more and don't act the jealous type. It will drive him nuts.

They broke up for 2 months, tal. Not that it matters all that much but still. I do go by the rule when you break up both parties are theoretically free to do whatever they like, unless you have set...

My recent ex is 32 and I am 27, and even though our love wasn't strong enough (obviously, she's my ex), age did play a role as in that she was pushing for commitment (marriage) and children due to...

The very last line you mention is unfortunately exactly the thing you will have to do. Don't make her your priority anymore. Give up hope, move on and let time heal the wounds. I know it won't be...

Even though I was the one that broke it off with my ex-gf (of 2.5 yrs) 2.5 months ago, I'm particularly now undergoing severe feelings of anxiety and abandonment and yearning towards our old times....

It sounds as if your relationship isn't all that great. Why does he never like to cuddle you, show affection and have sex? Since when/how long ago did this start? Certainly not from the very...

I'm glad you're doing well. And thanks for asking. I guess I asked your status, because I am not doing all that amazing and have conflicting thoughts myself. We can perhaps relate to each other,...

Any updates hed2hed? How are you both coping together now?

If you look in the right places, I think you can find practical techniques to deal with your thinking process and gradually stop your obsessive thoughts about him. For example having an inner...

Backpack has said it all. One way or the other, her staying in your current city is not going to work. If you break up, you will loose each other. Before you go down that road, stay in the...

If you want it to work with your boyfriend, there's only one thing you can do: STAY AWAY FROM THE NEW GUY

To go through your post one by one for a few questions:

1. how long ago did your wife find the male friend to confide in?

2. when she says she's done, what exactly does she mean. You say she...

Really, has it been the 10th time? That's a nicely rounded off number. Why don't you keep it like that? I would call it quits if I were you, sounds like this isn't going anywhere.

I agree with ITstudent that you are not screwed up at all. Actually, you're being very reasonable. 10 months into your relationship, add several months, it has been over a year since they broke up....

That's what I was wondering too, Homegirl... Also, how can you have just recently gone through a divorce while you were dating someone else for 4 years already? So I'm assuming you met your current...

Just leave her be. If she's interested she'll seek active contact. Otherwise it's over and done with. Stop pursuing her.

It does sound you have something special together, hope you can get your head around your problems. Do you feel the relationship is going somewhere now, and how are you feeling about your mentioned...

Tough one, and yes you did move way too fast after your separation. 

Difficulty is, because both of you wanted to avoid the pain and loneliness of the breakup and rebounded, you have had very...