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Thank you for the encouraging words.

Update: I failed to mention that my ex told me when I wanted to leave that he would make sure I would not have a relationship with my kids, or get to come to their school activities etc. He said he...

Call her. Being mad and resenting her will only hurt you.

Thanks. When I created this user name, my son had said that to me, and I was sad that day so I used it. I think that little girl that said that must have had problems with her momma and was just...

Thanks for all of your advise. I just have to let go even though I wasn't finished raising my children yet. I have invited my daughter every day for a week (since she is really supposed to be here...

susangpyp and justcurious55, thanks so much for talking with me about this and making such good points. My fear was that if I stopped showing up and didn't try and fight for them (just my daughter...

justcurious55, My ex kept saying that to hear him tell it, I don't show up to pick up the kids. At this time, my son was 17 and my daughter 14. My daughter got in my truck, and I went up to the...

I agree, I should have gotten a better lawyer originally, but I could not afford one because the lawyer I hired took all of the fee up front and I had nothing left. I had given EVERYTHING to my ex...

Looks like my ex gets it all, again. I don't think anyone understands that I will not get to see them ever again. Story of my life... don't fight, do the right thing and things will come around. ...

Do you think they can block the move even if she is refusing to see me? There is a visitation schedule in place, but he tells her it is optional so she will not go, no matter how strong I get about...

Actually, I took my daughter to counseling every week for months, and she indicated that she had a perfect family and I left her dad and that is why she resents me. I covered all this stuff up for...

Holly23, the court in this small town gives the kids to whoever the kids say they want to live with. I did not GIVE UP my kids! He took them from me by manipulating them into signing affidavits...

Holly23, the kids decide when they are 12. I hope you never have to live with a man that won't work, cheats, addicted to porn and gambling.

He took their birthday money to gamble with. I...

I am leaning toward fighting in court since he has broken basically everything in the decree and is in contempt of court all over the place. My daughter has no rules at his house. She comes and...

Hi,

I divorced my kids' dad a few years ago, and he convinced both kids (12 and 15 at the time and now 15 and 18) to live with him. I did not have a good lawyer, so he got the house, the kids,...

Hi Starlight38us,

I left my controlling/gambling/cheating ex in 2006, and he made my then 15 year old son and 13 year old daughter pity him so much... and then took them to his attorney and got...

NCdad: Thanks! It is good to know I'm not the only one who has this problem. I am finally coming to the reality that they are never coming back as children, and I'm starting to accept it. Thanks...

I know I should just leave them alone, but I feel like I'm giving up on them and leaving them to a miserable life there. My daughter has gained 70 lbs and my son treats women disrespectfully and I...

My son is 17 and my daughter is 15. My ex-husband got full custody only because he got the kids to say they wanted to live with him. He is rarely home and lets them do as they please. They each...

I know it is hard, but I think all we can do is keep telling them we do love them and miss them. I pray a lot! I have to remind myself that God does not beg us when we turn our backs, he waits for...

I left my control freak/gambling ex a few years ago, and he took both of my teens to his attorney and had them sign papers saying they wanted to live with him. He got custody because of their ages,...

hb4now,

I am so sorry! I have gone through a very similar situation after I divorced my control freak ex-husband, and he took both of my teens and had them sign papers saying they wanted to live...

At 21, he should really be on his own. It is your house, your rules. If he wants to live there, he should respect your rules or get his own place. If he doesn't abide by your rules, he needs to...

I think it is wonderful that you have such an understanding, caring husband that cares how you feel. I understand that you feel rejected by your mom, and I do not understand how she could speak such...

Thanks for the advise. I have been sitting back for a couple of years but thought maybe I need to really do something... just wasn't sure what! I gave my son $100 on his birthday in a card that...

Hi,

I am so desperate for help. I was married to a man for 16 years that gambled, was addicted to porn, was very controlling, and had very perverted ideas of how a marriage should be. He had...