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Well I replied that I have been busy and didn't see my ex's email... figured that would be it for the night. Get a text message saying why am I so busy... who did I see the movie with... what is...

Yah... I actually just texted back saying I couldn't get together cause I was seeing a movie... nothing else. About 10 minutes later I get another text saying "who are you going with?" Did you get my...

Ok so I just get a text message from my ex saying they're in the city and asking if I want to do something together. Of course I want to jump at it but I will just head out with a friend and ignore...

I'm starting to get those thoughts about why my ex would write emails to me... thinking what if they are missing me... and is it getting the way of talking about things if I don't open the emails or...

You aren't pathetic but you are holding on. 5 days for NC really isn't long enough and breaking it put you back where you were when you started... he knows you are still out there wanting him... it...

Yep... I set a goal of Monday to even consider opening the email with no subject. Funny thing is... I know that game.. if you send emails with subject lines its easier for the ex to not open it since...

So tonight I get two emails from my ex... one has a movie link (didn't open but can tell by subject line) and the second was sent an hour later with no subject to it. Since my ex can tell if I open...

Well I opened the email a day after I received it.. no big deal... just a link to a movie trailer... but I know my ex... its was a way to remind me of them without actually putting themselves on the...

Haven't responded. Actually had a great day today... even though it was so rainy here in NYC... I found myself going a hour or so without thinking of my ex... how refreshing that felt. Not planning...

So tonight I check my email and there's an email from my ex. From the subject it's a link to a movie clip... now I know not to read more into it... so I haven't opened it and probably won't be...

So I haven't spoken or looked for my ex now for about 3 days. It really hasn't been too hard. I think my last conversation was such a waste of time. I ordered a few books... one in particular called...

I hear you say you're happy you did it this way. Trust me... you're coming off that high of having spoken to her... probably a few false hopes still in there... come back in about 5 days of no...

Just remember that No Contact is not to punish them... I know it feels like you are... but you are just removing the source of pain from your life so it doesn't create additional pain while you heal....

I know what you're all saying. I really just have to make this decision and not matter how much work it takes.. just stick to it. I spoke to my ex tonight... all my ex told me was what they ate......

I think she told you about not dating others because she wants to make sure you don't. It's a little of a game and really not fair to tell you that. Trust me... if either of you go out and someone is...

Why would my ex reach out and be nice when I went online last Wednesday... then so mean when I was online on Thursday and now not even speak to me if I'm online? Why be nice the first time I logged...

Went online this morning... saw my ex was online... but I didn't say a word and neither did they. I sat there for a while thinking how I knew this wasn't good... and avoiding the need to say...

Is there ever a time when No Contact is no appropriate? In second guessing the No Contact I just wondered when you know if you shouldn't do it...

I don't think my ex wants to be back together but I do know they like to use the power over me. Tonight was the first night of my new NC... and I actually had zero problems... felt a little sad but I...

The only thing I can say that was good about breaking it... it reminded me how mean my ex can be... and helped clear up those worries about how they were taking it. I kind of feel like I'm a little...

I guess I'll try the list of things to do when I start to have too much time on my hands. I just want to be as far beyond contact with my ex before they leave for Florida (whenever that is)... I knew...

It was also weird because two nights ago when I went online, my ex said hi right away etc. etc... then last night... after I sat online for a while... my ex said "why didn't you say hi to me when you...

Thanks thadevilsadvocate... its funny how we can understand everything on paper but carrying it out... isn't always easy. I was surprised that last night when my ex said hi to me online they were all...

So went online again today and spoke to my ex. Not too emotional today because I realize that there just isn't any feelings (or maybe never was) on my ex's end. My ex actually seemed angry at me when...

Yah... I have to learn from this. I'm actually more upset at myself for making my ex feel so important once again while they gave me nothing but the smallest amount of attention. Thankfully I didn't...

So I blew it tonight. I guess this thread kind of showed I was having problems with NC. I went online and of course my ex initiated the hi... asked how my job was... I just said very good and said...

Well I keep coming so close to breaking the NC rule. I went online last night... my ex was online but had the away turned on... I sat there online for about 2 minutes.. heart racing.. and then forced...

Don't make a big deal cause it seems to me you probably won't speak to her about it. It really hasn't been that long and No Contact means forever... unless your ex contacts you.

Keep on keeping...

No contact is a very serious technique that I'm currently really struggling to do... winning most the time. If you aren't sure why you need to do it... read these:
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No contact is the only thing you can do right now. I had a 6 year relationship end a little while ago and it can be very hard to see clearly for a while. This is a good time to get things done in...

Sounds like you're doing it pretty all correct. Just keep on keeping on. Share your advice if you can when necessary... some of us don't make such good strides as you are... and often make bad...

Sounds like you've made good progress. I am probably in the boat where you were about a month or so ago. I've only been NC for about a week and its very hard. Its good to hear it does get better. I...

I know you're right. Boy today was a bad day. Couldn't stop thinking about my ex and just basically went through the motions today. Came home exhausted from thinking about this situation. Still...

She isn't deserving of your attention. She isn't even worthy of your pain. No contact. Do it... stick to it. Tell her to not contact you anymore. I know its hard. Do you see the pattern? She's using...

6 months is a long time. Have you had contact with her? Is she interested in getting back together? I know you think you miss her.. but probably you just feel lonely. Your ready for a new person in...

If she means that much to you... and your relationship is truly returning to happiness... may I suggest couples counseling? It can't hurt and in the long run... I suspect you'll have much better odds...

What I worry about right now is that I didn't tell my ex that I'm doing no contact. When my ex went to Florida they knew I was mad... and when they came back I didn't go online to contact them at...

Isn't it funny how three weeks can take us from wanting someone to not wanting that pain anymore. Good for you. This is what NC is all about. I also received a Thanksgiving message from my ex... you...

We're here to help you... I don't think we're in a position to do that. We don't know her... and honestly... if you seriously think the distance won't be a problem... then you're on your own.
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I'm sure everyone knows what I'm talking about... that little voice that can totally ruin a happy day or drive me to do something (like calling my ex) that I know I shouldn't. My voice in particular...

This is a relatively new relationship and you're both on different ships going in different directions (sorry for the romantic novel images there)... just be thankful you met her and tell her that...

Things could be said right now but we'll just leave you with this thread if/when you need to return. Remember though... no contact doesn't stop a relationship from starting again. It would not have...

Yah... I tend to get myself caught up in ideas of what my ex is doing and that usually just leads to me thinking I can go online and see if my ex will speak to me. I was honestly very happy they...

I wouldn't keep my mouth shut. Bring it up and get it out there. Keeping things quiet won't make problems go away. Trust me on that. If you two are equally willing to discuss the problems... I would...

I would just agree... no contact. Don't give in and find out what's going on... you'll immediately realize how painful that can be. It won't be easy but this is all about you and your life.

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I know this is hard. Trust me... we all know. You probably won't believe this when I tell you this... he isn't going to be your one and only love in this world. It is almost impossible to meet...

After 6 years I know my ex and I'm sure my ex is now angry at me for not having any contact. Of course that reaction is exactly what bothers me the most because I hate making my ex mad or sad through...

You keep saying NC will be ignoring her. NC will take you away so YOU can heal. It has absolutely nothing to do with her and how she feels. She's the one who wanted out. What you're doing is going...

I know its true. Its not easy but I know this is true. 6 years is a long time to basically have someone end it online. I did go online a couple times but thankfully my ex wasn't online so I spared...

Thanks so much... I went online tonight... just couldn't fight the pain.. but thankfully my ex wasn't online... so I sat there on AIM seeing if they came on... and they didn't... so after reading...