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I have a question and apologize if the answer is obvious and I come across as naïve, but does anyone know (or can point to a source that may enlighten me on) the difference in risk in performing oral...

Wow, it's been so long since I posted here. All your advice helped me immensely so my absence is a good thing! I've been dealing with some huge anxieties about graduation (officially occurring this...

Sorry I have been absent. I thought things were going well, but now I'm confused.

To update you, on Thursday I kissed a very nice boy (one I mentioned earlier in this thread) and although I did...

Not checking his Facebook: hard at first and then soooo empowering.

Warning: I know this is long and it's really for me to reflect on the fact that it's been a month since the break-up more than I need advice. Skip this rambling if you like and I couldn't possibly be...

I think there's no one "one" but there's lots of "ones." With so many people in the world, there are bound to be lots of great people and lots of great matches out there for you. It's just my opinion...

I have to spread the rep but this is life-changing insight. Seriously. This is the way I should be looking at this.

This is an impossible question to answer because every person is different and every relationship dynamic is different. Are there specific behaviors you're curious about? As someone who was once a 15...

It wouldn't be a real day if I didn't see Evan.

... I was doing fine, feeling great, and then I saw him again today.
It's 4/20 (for those of you unfamiliar, lots of marijuana-smoking and strange...

I say take it slow. Do you feel obligated to announce your love for her as opposed to just hugging, cuddling and/or asking her on a date (something specific like "do you want to go play mini-golf on...

Waiting for what? To kiss you? To express her feelings? How does this guy even know your friend?

If she's cuddling with you (and presumably not cuddling with a lot of other guys) and she's going...

I've had a good day today so far: I did things I wanted, which included spending time outdoors with friends, going on a bike ride and going for a jog with a friend, doing some fun extracurriculars...

Thanks so much for your encouragement! I have to keep reminding myself that seeing him in such an unflattering light in which he demonstrates that he can't be civil and oftentimes looks completely...

I am extremely overwhelmed. I'm going to make an appointment with a therapist as soon as health services opens...

Today I saw him and he occupied my thoughts... I tried to be social and go out...

All break-ups are hard and the difficulty depends on you, the other person, the relationship's intensity and length, the circumstances, everything variable.

I believe that when the time comes when...

I saw him again on that public campus area. And I felt like s--t so I finished my Scrabble game, left... cried on the phone to my mom and went home.

I feel like absolute s--t.

You both need treatment. If you do not understand what benefit treatment has for you, think of the children. What sort of life are you preparing them for?

I'd like to vent about what happened tonight:

I went out with a group of friends and at the end of the night, a friend who has definitely had an awkward crush on me for a while tried to kiss me....

Anyone care to recommend some good post-break up reading? I'm looking for something of the philosophical or "find yourself" variety. I'm not looking for a "how to deal when a guy dumps you" book but...

Starbuck and Mom of 2, I need to "spread the rep" before agreeing with your posts, but WOW. Thank you! Starbuck's words brought tears to my eyes!

My boyfriend of 3.5 years and I broke up 3 weeks ago today so I'm in a similar situation. Guys have expressed and displayed interest in me but the thought of dating someone else disgusts me. I enjoy...

It's the three-week anniversary of my singledom. I don't necessarily feel worlds better than I did a week ago. Maybe week one was the big progress in healing and now it's smaller steps. I'm a bit...

Couldn't have gone better, it seems. Good for you!

I don't mean to be obnoxious, but I hope you are using the type and amount of pills that are being prescribed by your doctor. Suicidal ideation is something that's extremely serious, as is taking...

Again, thank you all! Starbuck, I will definitely take you up on your offer of a PM sometime soon.

A weird thing about the timing of this break-up is that I'm witnessing a lot of similar break-ups...

Day 18 of NC; day 18 of break-up. Phew.

I know I'm doing well but I really missed tonight in a pained way. I went dancing with my friends and had an awesome time. It was great. But as the night wore on and people were coupling and going...

Today was much better. I feel like going through experiences like that, where I either see him or he acts like an idiot (or both), it solidifies my feelings of acceptance and moving on a little bit...

Yes, but oftentimes I meet them again and suddenly their true colors show. For better or for worse. It's romantic to like someone the first time you meet them but don't count on it meaning anything...

Thank you! I didn't go up to see what was going on but was watching from far away where I was sitting. I think it's funny that he was trying to make me jealous but all he did was make me realize that...

Update:

It's a beautiful day out so everyone was sitting outside in this one particular area in the center of campus. My friend asked if I wanted to go there to find one of her friends to sit...

When you're down and lost in thought about the breakup or your ex, is there something you remind yourself to get out of it? Is it a bad thing about the ex? Is it a run-through of the narrative of why...

I've been able to get my mind off Evan for a bit in the city with my friend. It's been up and down. I don't have time for a real update, but I am definitely hurting. I'm having dreams where he either...

When was your break up? When did you start to feel improvements? I am on the second week and it feels worse than the first.

Oh lord.

Good news: I just got another job interview.
Bad news: This news seems so minuscule compared to the enormity of the break up.

I feel like even if I won an Oscar right now, it'd still...

Thank you so much. So much. I know that it shouldn't matter, but I did find out that he didn't shave, which for some reason made me feel better.

I wish I could focus on myself right now. I know...

All right. Right now I'm feeling like the most absolute s--t. ugh, crying and then staring and then crying... break ups rule! I don't know why more people don't do them.

I feel awwwwwwwwful.

That would be the thing to do. I wish I could do this but I know I'll probably either turn red and put my head down or run and hide.

Do boys come in flocks? DO BOYS COME IN FLOCKS?? Haha. I like to think it's a lot easier to find the nice girls than the nice boys. Or at least I tell myself when I'm surrounded by jerks.

This is what broken hearts dream of.


Amazingly rational.


They're all where I am, in vast amounts, surrounded nothing but awful guys. Let's trade.

UPDATE: I SAW EVAN. Technically...

OK so I'm coming out of a campus building, I'm two steps out, and I see him walking maybe 100 feet away crossing the street, not coming toward the building,...

Thanks so so so so much for your kind words and for reading my sometimes rambling, oftentimes self-centered thoughts. People have been giving me great advice but it's always nice to get some more...

My ex-boyfriend (ex of a week, which is why I'm on this forum) broke up with me last year when we both went on our semesters abroad. He wanted to feel like he wasn't tied down while exploring a new...

Any good post-break up song recommendations for running or for listening to when I'm feeling down? I'm thinking cheesy independence anthems like Journey "Don't Stop Believing" and Natasha Bedingfield...

I don't think it's strong vs. weak!! I learned from experience of breaking NC that it didn't work for me last time. You're strong. It's OK.

Day 8 of NC for me. And it still sucks.

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm so sorry that that happened and that you had to deal with that when you were going through a divorce. I hope that people learn from it. It seems like that guy had...

Either all these problems are symptomatic of each other or there's a larger underlying issue. You are not being over-analytical and you have a right to be confused and concerned. Maybe this is...

I can't detect whether you're being sarcastic with some of these. This seems like an outline of how to be manipulative rather than how to get a girl to love you. Pardon me for thinking that falling...

In response to Mom of 2, you are right about guys being able to sense a girl who's kind of broken after a relationship. I hadn't thought of that so I will definitely keep it in mind. Thanks.