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My first love visited me this week whom I haven't seen in 12 years though we have been in contact for about 5 (he found me on Facebook). There was an initial flirtation when he got back in touch,...

Jeez, how rude!

Thanks for the post, telly9. Good to hear some positivity. :)

You're not being dramatic at all, you have every right to feel like you do. Everyone has been there and a lot of the people on here are there right now too. Don't feel bad for crying in front of...

So at what point does she have the right to be upset, by your reckoning?!

That's a disgusting, cowardly thing to do to somebody. Tell your all your friends about this and I hope the word gets...

Philosophers have been debating that question for years; I doubt anybody here could answer it.

Frankly, I find the over-analysis of your thought process quite narcissistic. Either you want to be...

That's a really rough thing to happen to you, I'm sorry. I can understand him having doubts; it is a HUGE move to make. However, I think he put some blame on you (the "settling" remark) instead of...

Apologies for dredging this up again, but I need a rant!
I've been sticking to no-contact, but with him re-signed up to this dating site, it seems almost impossible. There's no way of completely...

I met my ex in exactly the same way. There are no rules as to what to do when you meet in person; you'll just have to go with what feels right and things will happen naturally. Please remember that...

Is there a need to specify? I'd avoid it; may make for an awkward situation.

Start a conversation with her but keep it light, then arrange to meet up. Definitely take a chance though! :)

What he did was cruel and cowardly. I hope you realise that you deserve a LOT better than that.

A lesbian/bisexual woman cannot seduce a straight woman. I'm sorry, but as a straight woman myself, I find this a little insulting; imagine if I asked advice on how to "turn" a gay man! Oh, and...

Sounds to me like he's just comfortable in his own, heterosexual, skin!

You say "online crush"... what ages are you both? Have you spoken on the phone or just online?

1] Because she's unhappy with her own life at the moment and is pondering the "what if?"s.

2] No, just curiousity.

3] Because it's a lot easier to Facebook message. Calling takes more...

I second this! I'm 5'7. Most of my girlfriends were shorter than me growing up and the shortest ones always got the most attention!

The age difference when older is no big deal but trust me: once you hit 18, this guy will be a distant memory!

First loves ARE special purely because they're a totally new experience. But, course you'll get over him, and hopefully be left with some wonderful memories. :)

Poor girl. The lesser of two evils is face to face after she arrives, somewhere private (PLEASE not in a public place). At least she'll have her Mother.

Well if he's said that "it isn't just sex for him" and he's been in constant contact with you and saying sweet things despite the distance, it seems he certainly does like you, otherwise why would he...

Personally, I don't see a problem with porn, it's not as if he's cheating on you... but each to their own, I guess. Sounds like you have more issues with him than just that?

Odd... has he been in touch yet?

THANK YOU! I read this post on mobile last night and couldn't wait to log in today, couldn't believe why nobody called him an a$$ sooner! Seriously, what a rotter of a person.

Thanks. I needed that metaphorical kick up the bottom!

As I mentioned in a previous post, I met my ex online. I'd signed back up to the site that we'd met on about a week ago; mostly out of morbid curiously to see if he had, I'll admit. To my relief,...

You couldn't take how he was acting anymore so you broke up with him, but it's clear that that is the reaction he wanted from you. He SHOULD have had the guts to be honest with you and break your...

You need to talk to him about it.

I don't get how coldness works with a "passionate" sex life. If he's moved on to another partner and is STILL using you for sex, that doesn't sound like a good person. You also said he sounds...

No rush exactly, just happened by chance. I was single for a long time and NONE of my friends are, so unfortunately being so at this stage of my life is no longer enjoyable! ;) Luckily though,...

I agree with C0bra_M3nace. I'm ashamed to admit that what she's said sounds like something I'd thought/said before, and it has been insecurity and the fear of allowing myself to become vulnerable. ...

Has he just come out of a long-term relationship? Sounds like my ex - wanted a relationship in theory and then realised he wasn't ready for one when it happened.

It's actually almost 4 weeks, but yeah, feels the same as 1!

I posted here last week or so about splitting from my ex and my heartache over it. I've hastily agreed to meet a guy for drinks at the weekend and to be honest, it's stressing me a bit. Part of my...

How long have you been on the pill or is this a new one for you? Sounds like breakthrough bleeding. If you've just started taking the pill/a new variety then your body can take up to 3 months to...

The fact that somebody was willing to have a relationship with somebody with an attitude like yours means that there is hope for happiness for us all! Jeez...

What she's continually putting you through is not fair. She's using you as an emotional punching bag every time she's stressed about something. I think you should try to move on. Time IS a great...

6 days later? Yes, you'd be OK.

Thanks for the replies. I suppose I just feel regretful about contacting him that last time; that maybe I let myself down and ruined any hope of a reconciliation. I'm finding not talking to him...

I don't think anyone actually WANTS to move on when they're in your situation; if they do, chances are they already have. I'm in a similar predicament myself, but it's something you have to force...

There's no easy way to tell them. You'll just have to sit them down and do it. If there's another adult whom you trust/feel more comfortable talking to (such as an aunt or older sister), perhaps...

Sorry for the length of this post. I've tried to summarise where possible.


A few months ago, I met a man online. We instantly 'clicked' and although we lived far apart, shared similar family...