Hi...I'm new here. My story is long and filled with a bunch of High School drama but as of now I'm ontop of the world with the girl of my dreams.


Me and my bestfriend started hanging out with this girl that was an ex of our other friend and we both started to like her after being together everyday over summer. A lot of things happened involving deciete / backstabbing ect.. Basically my "Best Friend" and I keep getting pushed more and more apart. I was with them (while they were dating) Just about everyday , which making it even harder for me to move on. After 3 months into their relationship , and still trying to be the bestfriend and being so close to his GF he started being very verbally abusive to her and I was always there to comfort her as a friend. Soon my "bestfriend" started taking anti depressents and constantly would blame her for the reason he was on meds. or he would bring up all these things he bought her to make her feel in the wrong for doing something to him. Basically he's the kind of guy that thinks buying his girlfriend things makes up for being an . Being his friend I kept telling him over , and over that won't make things better. Soon he started accusing me and his GF of doing things with eachother , but at the time our friendship was totally platonic / innocent. We were inseperatable when they weren't together. I always wanted to be with her , and she always told her bestfriends she liked me. It always messed with my emotions and at one point me being a very sensitive person , and hard on myself. At the time I had many things going through my head I wanted to get out , I wanted to move on with my life and get out of this state. I signed up for the USMC. Among other reasons for joining at that current moment I was just hurt with being twisted around and brought between 2 people I cared for. I've always heard the saying "Bro's before Hoe's" as disrespectful that IS to females that's just a saying. He kept pushing me away further and further always accusing me and his GF of doing things together. I finally got fed up with it and stopped talking to him but continued to be great friends with his GF..Me and her became insanely close. Not 1 month later she finally broke it off with him , gave him everything back he bought her. One night , we rented movies - watched them and everything then had one of those nights that you dream about..The night you stay up for an entire night just talking about everything ! When you were younger, your future , past relationships , family , ect. The next night she stayed over agian with a movie , and I noticed she had been getting closer to me , and I was terrified because I wasn't sure how she felt about me. We ended up kissing , holding eachother kissing for hours ! It never got old for us that night , and still continues not to get old. I thought our first kiss would be akward , but we after our lips first touched we looked at eachother and both smiled
..We didn't just date right away. I had recently finally gotten the balls to ask her to prom as friends but hoped that we would end up dating. We had some conflicts and are still. I've never felt anywhere close to how I have been feeling since my best friend has been out of the picture. It sounds shady but you have to realize , he kept pushing me away I tried fighting my feelings for her. We started dating after she asked ME out march 8th and we both love every moment of it. Things have still been great , and our first month together will be April 8th which just happens to be Easter . I leave Aug. 6th for USMC bootcamp , and I almost regret making my decision for joining because we both want this to be more than some stupid High School relationship. We're young , both only 18 and we're graduating in around 30 days give or take. I truely can say I love this girl , she's my bestfriend and my girlfriend. I have the best of BOTH worlds and couldn't ask for anything more. She's brought out the real me , the fun in life that I've always wanted. I think about her almost every waking moment and I just cannot get enough of her. With me leaving soon and her going to college she cries to me often and I cry too because we both wish we would've been together sooner. I know we haven't been dating for even a month yet , but after getting so close and being with eachother [not exaggerating] everyday I want to make the best of these last months we'll be able to see eachother all the time. I want to sweep her off her feet with something special. Our story continues everyday..I've always heard the saying there's plenty of fish in the sea , and I really hope this is the one for me. What I'm really asking sort of here , what are some things that aren't too extreme that I could possibly do for our 1 month. She's a simple , cute girl and loves the little things in life. She's the most beautiful girl , fun young at heart still personalality. I don't want to lose her after high school when our lives will change forever.

Appreciate any comments , critics , ect Thank you


- Jay

SemperFi18

[Another question i would like to add onto , have any of you gone through or currently going through a relationship where your bf / gf is in the military ?

MrsJoseph06

Wow, Thats alot of drama! But I'm glad you ended up with the girl in the end! I think a good one month anniversary present would be your heart! i know its corny! But really sweet since you are both leaving you could wrap up a rock heart or even a hear necklace and give it to her! I wish you both the best of luck its hard to keep a relationship going when you are so far apart! But if its meant to be you guys will make it work! As for your second question I havent personally but my sister In-Law did and its hard! He was gone for 2 years and they were in much of the same situation you are seeing eachother every day before he got shiped out! They got video messageing so they could still talk and see one another! Well good luck!

jkramer

Ive been in a military relationship... well actually i just got out of one. It WILL work if you both put forth the effort. It can be hard at times... bootcamp will be rough but if you can make it through 2 or 3 months of little to no contact then things get better . What i did for my military man was i made him his favorite cookies... saran wrapped each one and put a sticky note thingy on each one that said "i love ..." .. basically i made like 50 or so cookies wrote one thing on each about what i love about him and put them in a cute box and put a note on the box that said "50 things i adore about you"... he absolutely loved it . GOOD LUCK! and HOORAH!

alizeblu

yea, everyones gonna give you the happy go lucky side, but honestly its back to reality.

1st off, you messed up really bad in the beggining, i hope you know this is gonna backfire in your face.

you should never, ever, ever, ever,ever, become "BEST FRIENDS" with your friends girlfriend.

would he have accused you guys of doing something if you werent friends with her?

of coarse your feelings for her grew, you were constantly there for her when THEY needed to work out the problems for themselves.

when they were going through problems you shouldnt of concerned yourself with em. you shouldve stayed out of it, this way you didnt have to lose your friend nor mess up THEIR relationship.

ok maybe the guy was a bad boyfriend but as his friend the only thing you can do is support his actions. its called friendship, UNLESS, its one of those cases where hes hitting the girl, or worse, thats when you step in and say"look man what youre doing is WRONG. thats a true friend.

a true friend doesnt go behind his friends back and comfort HIS grilfriend everytime she has a problem.

honestly i would never even touch my friends ex's. you wanna talk about DRAMA? heh.

im tellin ya. its gonna backfire, i hope youre ready for the consequences, because you just took your friends ex and called her your own.

expect him to be very jealous, maybe even wanna fight you. maybe worse.

you have to understand that hes hurt OBVIOUSLY, his girl and his friend just left him!

if he sees you guys walking together one day.......... i can only hope he doesnt assume what i think hes going to, because if he does...........


god be with you, because when people are hurt, anything is bound to happen.

By the way, did you even go to him and tell him that you were seeing his ex?

i assume not, real friends come to their boys face and say,"look man, im really in love with your ex girlfriend and she loves me too, i would apprecieate it if you didnt mind us seeing eachother."

its called "RESPECT".

SemperFi18

Well , I guess I shouldn't have left some details out and you want to go ahead and bring out the bad part of it without knowing the entire story which is my fault. We both started hanging out with her at the same time , we knew her through our friend because he dated her too. It's really confusing and everything but either way call me what you want , I would give up a lot to have what I do with this girl now.

alizeblu

heh sounds to me like you guys were in a love triangle. well, good luck with that, maybe its her thats gonna hurt you in the end.

3 guys like 1 girl, hmm...... i wonder whos to blame? heh.