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Asked Jun 27, 2012, 08:03 AM — 26 Answers
Well I met my boyfriend when I was young. We have been together for 5 years and he is my world, although it’s different on his side. See he use to cheat on me 24/7 but every time he got locked up he would NEED and LOVE me and only me. Then he'd get out and not even talk to me.

Well recently he just got out again on June 17th. he was in prison for a year and a half. He didn’t call me or nothing that day. He texted me the following day to let me know he was home. we saw each other that night and he left the following morning NO TEXT NO CALLS for a full week. And he claims he wasn't home yet sucks at Lying!

He claims because how pretty I am he knows I cheated while he was locked up and he wants to have a kid to fully make me his.
I LOVE HIM TO DEATH BUT SO CONFUSED ON WHAT TO DO. HELP?

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#21

Jun 27, 2012, 10:13 AM
You need to calm down, no we don't know you, or your boyfriend. Go back and read what you wrote. That's about all we have to go on, the rest is all assumption. Assumption on past incidents that are relative to this, aswell as, yes, stereotypes. You can't come onto a website like this, give a mere fraction of your story and expect us to know exactly who you are, and then get mad about it when we don't.

No one ever said that he wouldn't be a good dad, nor you wouldn't be a good mother. You need to relax and stop putting words in everyones mouth. We are just stating, from the information you gave us, what our opinions are on the matter, is that not what you wanted coming here? You seem to have forgotten that he is a cheater and in most of our books, I think I speak for most people here, cheating is one of the lowest thing you can do to a "partner"

Like I said before, everyone here volunteers their time to help other people. If you aren't having any of it, then stop logging on and keep "loving" this guy.

The advice has been given, and the ball's in your court sweetheart. Not only on the decision to let him go or keep him, but how your life will turn out from now on.
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#22

Jun 27, 2012, 11:27 AM
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See financially i have no worries. Now you really starting to piss me off do you know me? Na you DONT do you know my boyfriend? No you DONT do you know my life? No you DONT. Now i DONT plan on any school after that why would i get a GED to go back to school? stupid. And Yea gangs was my whole life i have 187 across my cheek i got my eye brows tattooed i got 'try me' tatted on my eye lids and westside across my neck. do you got a issue with that? Does my appreance and life style goin to effect the way i raise my child. No it isnt so FALL THE BACK and as for my bf he has his hood all over his face and body DONT CHANGE THE FACT THAT HE CAN BE A GOOD DAD.
Maybe if you'd some of this attitude toward the boyfriend instead of me you wouldn't have to post problems on AMHD.

You know the truth - you just don't want to hear it.

I have no issues with your tats or your attitude or anything else - I just wasn't too sure that the first person who posted here was who you are.

And I was right.
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#23

Jun 28, 2012, 08:20 AM


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do you know me? Na you DONT do you know my boyfriend? No you DONT do you know my life?
No, I don't know you or your boyfriend personally, but I do know many people just like you.

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Now i DONT plan on any school after that why would i get a GED to go back to school? stupid.
So why are you getting your GED? Most people do it so that they can go to college and better their lives.

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And Yea gangs was my whole life i have 187 across my cheek i got my eye brows tattooed i got 'try me' tatted on my eye lids and westside across my neck. do you got a issue with that? Does my appreance and life style goin to effect the way i raise my child.
Actually, yes it can. Child services doesn't have a problem removing children from homes where there is danger. Gang involvement = danger to children.
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Jun 28, 2012, 08:43 AM
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See financially i have no worries. Now you really starting to piss me off do you know me? Na you DONT do you know my boyfriend? No you DONT do you know my life? No you DONT. Now i DONT plan on any school after that why would i get a GED to go back to school? stupid. And Yea gangs was my whole life i have 187 across my cheek i got my eye brows tattooed i got 'try me' tatted on my eye lids and westside across my neck. do you got a issue with that? Does my appreance and life style goin to effect the way i raise my child. No it isnt so FALL THE BACK and as for my bf he has his hood all over his face and body DONT CHANGE THE FACT THAT HE CAN BE A GOOD DAD.

Expect a series of dead end, low pay jobs if your entire education is a GED. Same thing with your tats. I don't know a lot of successful people with tattooed eyelids.

No job or low pay job DOES affect how your child is raised.

Of course, once you're a mother and get a little older this man who is "your World" will move on to someone else who will probably be young and naive (or stupid, pick one).

You're going to be tied down with his child.
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#25

Jul 4, 2012, 07:23 PM


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See he use to cheat on me 24/7 but every time he got locked up he would NEED and LOVE me and only me. Then he'd get out and not even talk to me.
Thats enough to know that having a child with him is not in your interest, as it ties you to a loser who is making sure he has someone on the outside in case he needs them. I mean what else would a guy who is in and out of jail need with a female that worships the ground he walks on? he doesn't worship you for sure. You just give into him.

And while you get angry at those who point out what he is about, and suggest you get out of his life, fact is you are the one cheated on, and ignored. That will not change unless you change it yourself. So its your choice to go thru this, and your choice to keep going thru this.

Any child you have will be grateful if you make a good choice I am sure.
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Jul 4, 2012, 07:37 PM
run.
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Jul 5, 2012, 03:36 AM
sounds like the exact type of people that should NEVER have a kid...

we don't need more people on welfare..
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