Ok, im not bragging, but i stopped talking to my ex a few months back, i did the whole NC thing. And an hour ago she msg'ed me telling me that she missed me and that shes broken up with the guy shes was with, and she wants to know if theres any hope of us ever getting back together!!!

NC Worked! there is hope after all!

Pity i'm over the B***H now though =)

Thanks to everyone on this site that replyed to my posts and advised me to walk away and to do the NC.
I went through some bad moments, and the people on this site really helped me, so thank you all.
I feel so good now

Sad Soul

I've been in no contact too, for about ten months, but he keeps coming back, and contacts me as a "friend" despite us agreeing a million times that there should be no contact.
It's all on my post. And it's damn confusing :S

Anyway, I'm glad no contact worked for youuuuuuuuu!!! Make sure she's trust worthy though. I don't want to sound like a party killer, but be careful and make sure old patterns that were destructive to a relationship are not in her anymore. (Like her still meeting men online while you were together, and then skipping off to another online relationship).

Jiser

MM in my case back in feb 07 I went NC str8 away. She sent a few txts. Like to say thanks for the valentines day stuff I sent - we had broken up the day before.

After a period of 4 weeks or so she sent me a message on myspace, asking how I was. Anyway from there on I stopped NC. Went out clubbing a few times with her and on her bday. My best mate and her and me went to a festival. She was seeing someone then and I told her I still liked her. Fowarding on a month she apoligised briefly to me about everything which happened between us. (I think her bf had dumped her)

Anyway I went No contact from then and that was in mid july. Nothing since then I have a good job now, I have improved my confidence alot, my career is looking on the up, I met loads of new people, I am into new things etc. Deep down I hope I one day turn out to be the one that got away. - Bit of an ego thing but hey :]

crushedovernover

So zell. how old are you two and how long were you together. And also howl ong were you guys apart?. And idd she break up with you? What happen after your split. Did you start dating or did she?

Zell

Wow, lots of replys =) I'll try to answer them all...

Erm, we was togther for about 3 months in total, i know it was a short time compared to most but alot happend in that time, and alot of emotions were thrown about. We've been apart for about 4 months now i think, she broke up with me for another guy =( (whose shes now split with =) ) She pretty much lied to me about her feelings and stuff, she lied to me about loving me etc etc...
After we split i got pretty depressed, we spoke for like a month afetr but it would always end in arguments, so thats when i decided to do the NC. I went through some pretty bad times during it, mostly due to drinking myself stupid (stay away from alcohol if your doing NC btw...) but i got through it i guess, just took each painful day as it came. It really does get better over time, even though i did not see that happerning when she first left.

Thanks to everyone again. You all helped me through it =)

P.S sorry for the late reply aswell, i was busy at work, and im going on holiday this week

crushedovernover

well words of wisdom.. be carefull. Dont repeat history

Jiser

Good luck zell! & thanks for the encouragment on my comment peeps.

I have an old friend whos a few years older than me who had fallen completely in love with an older women who was just coming out of a divorce. Thing is they both had come out of long time relationships....Two heart brakes. Everyone goes through pain but if we repeat the same mistakes...Our past relationships mean nothing. LEARN!