Kay so here's the deal.
My boyfriend's phone is broken, he can get calls and make calls, but only if he remembers the numbers, because he can't see anything on the screen. this means that he also can't see if he's had any missed calls. And when it broke, it was on vibrate. Well, he clearly can't see the screen to change that setting. I had been trying to call him for about an hour, because he had asked me to call him when I woke up. Well, he wasn't answering, so I figured I'd shoot on Facebook for a sec to see if his room mate was online so he could pass the message. Well, he was online, So I asked, "hey, could you please let him know that I've been trying to call him? I'd appreciate it!" That's was almost the entirety of the conversation other than the "thank you" exchange.
I had never spoken to him on facebook before, and I wouldn't have if I could have at least texted my boyfriend, or if he was able to hear his phone or whatever.
Well, now my boyfriend is mad at me because I talked to his friend on facebook. That was the only time, for that reason alone.
He hates facebook, and gets kinda jealous. (which I completely understand, because I get sort of jealous too)
Did I do the wrong thing in asking his room mate to pass on the message?
I mean, I could have just waited for him to call back, but I didn't know how long that would be or if his phone was even more messed up. I just wanted to make sure that he knew I'd been trying to get ahold of him.
Opinions?
I don't think you did anything wrong, after all, you only did it because you wanted to hear from him. Maybe try and show him the convo, or get the roommate to have a word with your boyfriend. Hope it helps xx
Well, I can understand why it would bother him, because we both made our fair share of mistakes (involving other people) so it's rifted the trust, but we've been working on mending it. For the most part things are good, he just doesn't want anything to happen. I'm the same way, but I think I'm a little more fair. If he had asked my friend to let me know that he was calling, I wouldn't be mad at all.
If you can't trust eachother enough to be able to talk to eachother's friends you shouldn't be together, I'm sorry.
I can understand being a certain lack of trust due to past mistakes, but that's too much. If you've betrayed him so much that you can't talk to his friend without getting worried. Then you both need to take a break from relationships and learn to love yourselves.
ohso, you did nothing wrong. I don't think it is as much about Facebook as everything else that is going on. Frustration, etc. can cause someone to over-react to even the smallest thing.
Give him (and yourself) a chance to calm down and think about what he got upset over. Then talk with him about what happened and work out a way that is acceptable to both of you to get in touch with him if you aren't sure his phone is working. You might bring up that with work and classes, phone tag is not going to be easy with one phone not working well.
I can see why some would think that.
It was more because of the fact that it was over facebook that bothered him.
He's not thinking "oh she was talking to my friend" He's reading around it. Like "I wonder if she's flirting with other guys"
It's not the fact that I talked to his friend that's really the issue, it's the facebook.
He never gets on his ever, because he hates it.
I've hung out with him and his friends before and there wasn't a problem. His friend that I talked to even gave me rides home a couple of times. He wasn't mad about that.
He is overreacting.
Trust is earned but since you are trying to repair it ,he should give you the benefit of the doubt.
I would not make an issue of it but in the future I think you need to have a serious talk about what both of you expect from the relationship.
If he is insecure about the relationship then he needs to say that and not get in a huff over a simple text.
xx
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