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I just had my baby boy last month and my baby's father informed me last week that his current girlfriend is 4 months pregnant. I broke up with him while pregnant. I really didn't have a solid reason for doing so. I think it was the raging hormones. In the meantime, he went and got a girlfriend and I gave a man who had been chasing me for 3 years a chance because he was there for me. Now my baby's father is saying he wants to be back with me and he made a mistake by getting his current girlfriend pregnant. I really love my baby's father. I care about my current boyfriend, but I know that it took him so long to get me because I really didn't want to be romantically involved with him. He was just there when I needed him most. My baby daddy had to work a lot when I was pregnant and couldn't be there like I wanted, but it wasn't his fault. I told my current boyfriend my feelings and we are currently not together. My baby's father is saying that he doesn't want to leave his current girlfriend while she is pregnant, but he wants to be with me. He just doesn't know how to break the news to her. I know that she will be hurt, but if he really wants to be with me, I think he should tell her the truth instead of leading her on. On the other hand, he shouldn't have put himself in this situation in the first place. Is it worth trying to work things out with him or should I just move on?
Move on. Sad, but I would say that will help you the most....
Get a good job. Good friends. Child Support. And a plan.
**One day he can visit his child and maybe even be a regular in your child's life
if he proves he has his life is together - once YOU have a firm base.
Right now he is probably just gonna bring drama that will make you both crazy i think...
Honestly i wouldnt mess with a guy like that. If he cant get his priorities straight then he certainly isnt going to be able to help you lead a family. Plus the fact that he wants to be with you but wont leave the other girl yet is a bit of a red flag in itself also, dont you think?
Despite if he comes back to you he will always be attached to the other woman because he has a child with her. Leave him alone and move on. You are headed for heartache again if you let this guy keep playing you.
Stay out of relationships for a while and make sure the babies daddy helps support this child, so you can get your life together and provide a loving, safe, healthy place for your child to grow in. Your relationship choices have your life in chaos and the only way to bring stability and order back is for you to focus on you and your childs' wellbeing.
You and your baby's father will always have a connection and your son is it. Whether or not things will ever work out romantically between the two of you is another issue altogether. But anyone who ever gets involved with you or your boyfriend's father will have to understand that you two will always have that bond. Likewise, your boyfriend and his current girlfriend will always be bonded by their child. It seems like both you and your ex move around quite often and quite fast. I think there are a lot of issues that you each need to address as individuals before you can consider any successful romantic possibilities.
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I broke up with him while pregnant.
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I really didn't have a solid reason for doing so.
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On the other hand, he shouldn't have put himself in this situation in the first place.
While he put himself in the situation of being the father to two young children he didn't ask to get dumped. He also didn't ask for you to change your mind and be inconsistent.
But forget about the two of you, you know who else didn't ask for this? Your child. Your child did not ask to be put in a situation where drama seems to be more important then common sense and stability. I think it's time you both grew up.
First off dont stay with him just cuz u have a baby with him. If u 2 cant get along it will end up hurting the child in the long run. They know what goes on even if they are young they can tell when things arent running smooth. He should have been more careful with the other girl. dont settle and dont let him lead u on either. If he has the both of u at his beg and call he has yall right where he wants u and he will probably hurt both of u in the long run. Truth is He now has two kids by two diffrent girls and the sooner u 2 girls see he is a dog the sooner yall can move on and make him pay for his mistakes. If he gave up on u just cuz u had a mood swing how will hw be when yall have to work threw hard times in the future. Just my opinion and i hope i could help u
Once again Chuff is the piercing voice of reason. Awesome answer Chuff.
You need to focus on taking care of yourself and your child. You need to stay out of all this drama it is toxic and ridiculous. Take your support and let this guy be a daddy but move on. you let him go and now you want to disrupt his happiness? I don't think thats right at all. How would you feel if the situation was reversed?
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