I have noticed that a lot of guys for fear of rejection do not aproach girls. There is nothing wrong with these guys and these guys would treat the girls well.

But it is the guys who just see girls as sex objects who will go out and hit on loads of different women a night that aproach the girls. Because the girls are waiting for a guy to aproach them, then they will go with these guys. Then this guy will just use her or cheat on her, because he always looking for another lay.

My point is that because the girl will only go for the guy who aproaches her as opposed to the guy who perhaps really likes her, but does not aproach her because he is not recieving any signs from her that she is interested (because she does not aproach ) then she will be seeing a jerk who mistreats her and cheats on her. !!!! This happens loads and does not make sence !

Surly you would think that if a girl sees a guy hitting on loads of other girls it would put her off, but the opposite seems to apply !!

talaniman

If a guy does not make his interest known, then how can a woman tell if he is interested? That's why confident guys get the play, Guy. They have no fear of rejection and are quite willing to move on when there is no interest. They have their own agenda and thats what they care about. When a fellow can overcome his shyness and fear of rejection he has more opportunities and more fun.

Nosnosna

Why should the girl go out looking among guys who may or may not be interested, when she can just sit back and wait for people who are? Remember, by not approaching, you're not giving her any signals that you're interested either... why do you expect more from her than you're willing to give?

Gender doesn't matter on this... anybody who waits for somebody else to make the move has no place to complain when they don't have a date.

I can go into great length about why waiting for someone else to approach you or hesitating to approach someone you're interested in is a terrible idea, but it boils down to this: Doing nothing will always get you a no, while doing something will get you a maybe. Given the choice, I'll take the maybe any day.

rol

exactly Tals post was what i was saying previously!!
women want a confident guy , not some shy thing that is afraid to ask her out!!!
I met my ex at a party , we talked for 2 minutes and i left, the next day he rang a friend of a friend to get my number and asked me out, that showed condfidence and strength.

<<My point is that because the girl will only go for the guy who aproaches her as opposed to the guy who perhaps really likes her, but does not aproach her because he is not recieving any signs from her that she is interested (because she does not aproach ) then she will be seeing a jerk who mistreats her and cheats on her. !!!>>

no no no, just because the guy approaches does not mean the girl is going to fall for the jerk!! what she wants is a guy who is not afraid to approach but yet takes things slowly and remains uncertain, this is why the jerks get the girls. The nice guys just stand around but wait for the girl to make the move, that is very unattractive or else they act all needy and go ahead in the stages.
I found an interesting paragraph in a book im reading, i will add it here later, right now im a bit busy.