Hi...i'm new at this and need advice.....I've been going out with this guy for nearly a yr and a half......but we don't spend more than 2 days togther coz we live too far from each other. I have just spent a total of 34hours with him.......and he decided he needed space!!!!! ***?????? he says he still wants to be with me but cant spend that long with anyone.....Now what do i do???? advice please???
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talaniman

He wants one thing you want another. Take a break and see how you feel (and he feels ) in 6 months. Others have said it is very hard to maintain a long distance relationship.

Jayjay027

Some good responses here.
My advice...get out while you can.

I was in a similar situation, where my ex and I lived miles away from eachother, we managed to maintain a long distance relationship on and off for 2 years....it ended with him sleeping with 2 girls behind my back, and him being the possible father of twins.

Avoid bigger heartache...break it off.
If he wanted you, he'd want to be with you any chance he gets, and he'd love the time you get to spend together.
34 hours together isnt too much at all.

It seems to me, like he see's you as a sex buddy.

Newbie06

Thanks guys....not quite what i wanted to hear......do any guys understand where he is coming from????

talaniman

Yes he wants his freedom to do what he wants and no commitments except by you.

s_cianci

As you've said, you live a considerable distance apart and really don't spend that much time together. Evidently that's the way he likes it. It sounds like he doesn't want anything serious right now so the distance thing is quite convenient for him. You have basically two options here: first, you can go along with him and consent to see him only when circumstances permit (which it seems like that's what you've been doing up until now anyhow) ; secondly, you can decide to end it all together and have no contact with him whatsoever and get on with your life without him being a part of it. If the first arrangement is not satisfactory to you then you need to end it altogether.

Krs

Im sorry!
But its the truth!

He wants best of both worlds, without takin into consideration your feelings, so dont get involved, he will hurt you.

Dreamcatcher91

hell i say dump the guy. he is so not worth it. ive been down this road. they ignore you for so long then come back. don't fall for it. and don't waste your time cuz ur missing out on someone who really would like you. and you deserve so much better!

t_rod95

if he lives fare from where you know what hes doing then maybe he is chating on you

Vienna111

Sounds very strange, often people can say strange things ans then regret them. Be yourself and allow them the time, be ready to act upon it, but dont lower your self pride. Hope it all works out

sophia3x

Take a deep breath.

He just broke up with you.

Stick a fork in it. It's done.

Every relationship (hopefully) is a rung on life's ladder.

Next guy you'll see more of and that's a GOOD THING.