I did a lot for my children when they were growning up. I was always there for them, until one day I could not take their fathers abusive anger anymore... so I divorced him... my children had a hard time with this. Their father fought me, over the divorce to the point I could no longer afford to be with my children... their dad took everything from me... I moved to another state to start things over... I understand in my children's eyes, who were then teenagers, that I left them. I stayed in touch with them, called them, flew them out to be with me. They were angry that I left... I understand now, how that was so hurtful to them. After several years have pasted we actually got back together and remarried. I am not proud of how things went... but back in the day... I was lossing it... The man was always angry... I couldn't take it... now he is much calmer. But my one son just won't forgive me... the other 4 have. This one son is 25 is married, and now has a daughter. He will not let me have anything to do with his daughter. It hurts a lot. What can I do? I have asked for forgiveness over and over again. He holds a grudge and says he does not want me with his daughter... he does not want her to get hurt like he did. I just want our family to be close like it once was. Please tell me what you think.

Focus on your kids who love you, and pray for the one who holds a grudge. Don't dwell on it though. Let him get over himself, in his own way, and in his own time.

I will not focus on many things you did wrong before,

I hope he is not abusive any more, and I hope the kids did not learn that being abusive was a correct way to treat your wife.

But yes, you just love them, deal with the ones that will be with you, and give the other one time