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    dudeneedsadvice Posts: 10, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 19, 2006, 03:41 PM
    Why is she Contacting me? Help
    Ok here's the dirt:
    After 5-months of being broken up w/no contact, My Ex-girlfriend of 2-years just contacted me through AOL instant mesenger w/voice.
    This is what she said, "Nothing's changed. I have been thinking about you lately and was wondering how you were doing. Have your mom and her finace picked a date yet? Also, I just got a motorcycle."
    That freaked me out. I thought we were done talking because our relationship ended on bad terms and SHE said she Never wanted to talk to me again and to have a nice life.
    We broke up because she left me for another girl (I am a guy btw) and said she was gay, I then freaked out, got drunk and called the first person to answer their phone(her mom) and told her that her daughter was gay, horrible move I know.
    I later found out she didn't end up dating the other girl from a mutual friend. The mutual friend also informed me that she 'never wanted to be with me again and would be my frined but I screwed that up' and 'didn't love me or want to hurt me anymore'.
    We Instant message the same people and all "conferance" chat in the same room but she keeps showing up in my chat room(on AOL im) and talking to everyone but me. She gets on when I do and gets off right after me according to our online friends. I sent her a friend request to her new screen name and she accepted it.
    What the heck is going on?
    What is she trying to do? :confused:
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    Feb 19, 2006, 03:47 PM
    I just got a motorcycle that takes just $700 more to get on the road."
    Hummmm funny thing that you broke up bad and stuff and now she starts to I'm you... As for the above she sent you, as she is an Ex I'd be looking to see if she was trying to get the cash outa you...
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    Feb 19, 2006, 03:54 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by nwsflash

    I just got a motorcycle that takes just $700 more to get on the road."
    Hummmm funny thing that you broke up bad and stuff and now she starts to I'm you... As for the above she sent you, as she is an Ex I'd be looking to see if she was trying to get the cash outa you...

    I agree.

    She is perhaps trying to get back with you to get you to finance her a bit, then dump you. Hence, she sees you as money.


    If she gets back together with you, under NO CIRCUMSTANCES give her a single cent.
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    Feb 19, 2006, 05:31 PM
    I do agree most likely since she mentioned money, it is money related,

    But again, often men and women after a few months have those days of regret when we get those nice memories of an ex.

    That is great to do, just come back to the real world then and remember why they are an ex
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    Feb 19, 2006, 06:07 PM
    Keep your money in your pocket and you don't have to worrry about her agenda.
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    Feb 19, 2006, 06:12 PM
    I would be wary of this girl. I broke up with this girl in college... we were really tight and I dumped her because basically she was screwing around with the quarterback of the football team. I gave her all our pictures back and anything she gave me that I could. Anyway a few weeks after we split she comes around my apartment saying she wanted to get back together and stupid me gave in because she was a piece of a _ _. Anyway she was getting all familiar with me in my room and suddenly she said she had to go but she would see me later that night. She also asked me if I wanted to come home the next day with her to her parents' house for a couple of days out in the country. Short story long... she never showed and then she told me I couldn't come with her to her parents' house... I worked out that she was taking her new guy. I know I hurt her when I gave her all her stuff back... so she was just trying to get me to take her back so she could dump me... and hurt me back... women can be vindictive... so be careful and don't get your heart broken again. She claimed she was gay... so she's probably really confused... I would lay low and see what develops further. Limit your contact with her. I don't know your ages so for all I know you may be teenagers.
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    Feb 19, 2006, 06:36 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by dudeneedsadvice
    Just To Be CLEAR: she never asked me for money and is OVER-independent. In our 2-years together I NEVER even bought her dinner once she wouldn't let me.

    You have edited your post to include that.

    That’s not the point. She hinted at the 700, and might ask you for it sometime in the future.

    While she didn’t take your money while dating, that’s because she liked you.

    Now, she doesn’t and thinks she can use you for money. Or perhaps she’s testing the waters, trying to get a feel if you would lend her the money.
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    Feb 19, 2006, 10:39 PM
    It's women... they are so fickle... I imagine she is looking for attention and to see if she still has you. She may have broken up with someone or is lonely... women tend to come back whe nthat happens.

    Becareful here... IF you want here back possibly...

    1. Don't respond right away. Wait a couple days - seriously.

    2. Respond, but respond with something funny. Ut gets women's attention.

    3. Going forward - be busy - don't respond to her calls, IMs. Text etc.

    But be careful here - it's hard for people to get back together - usually when a woman is done with someone, they are done. It's may be a ploy for attention. F-ing with you - seems a little jaded.

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