Why Men Won't Communicate Their Feelings

missqueenb · #1 Feb 10, 2005, 07:59 PM

Hello Experts......it's Me, Miss Qb,

Heres My Question......why Is It That Men Have So Much Trouble Communicating Their Feelings To A Woman? Like Take For A Better Example, This Guy And I Are "together" But He Doesnt Say It. He Has Gone As Far As Saying, While It Is Just He And I On The Phone As "special Friends" Or That We "just Talk" But When We Are In Public, He Is Affectionate(not Gooey, Cause I Cant Stand That All Over Me ) And Makes It Known That He And I Are An Item.....but When He Is With Me, He Hides His Feelings, When I Know Damn Well That He Likes Me Just As Well Or More As I Like Him.....well, One Day He And I Had A Discussion After He Gave Me The "wee Special Friends " Conversation, That If He Found A Girlfriend, Would I Still Call Him, And Be His Friend...i Told Him No Because It's Being Selfish, On His Behalf Because It Sounds Like He's Saying That Im Not Good Enough To Be With, But Good Enough To Sleep With...i Told Him That I As Well Could Obtain A Boyfriend( Since He Is Pretending) And I'd Have To Cease Current Contact With Him....he Got Angry And Said Thatthis Meant That I Wasn't Really His Friend( Rrrh?) Anyway, Today, He Was All Like Ay This Me, You Know, Basically Alerting Everyone Else Except Me That We Are Together. Well, Since He Can't Just Say It, And Since I Can See It In His Eyes That He Is Feelin Me, Should I Back Off Until He's Grown Enough To Say It, (i Really Don't Want To, Cause I Am Really Feeling Him, Heart And Soul Yall)or, Since I Already Know The Deal, Should I Just Be Patient?

NeedKarma · Feb 11, 2005, 06:25 AM

The CapsLock key is just above the left Shift key.

Nez · Feb 11, 2005, 06:58 AM

WHY DO PEOPLE NEED TO SHOUT?

Nez.

psi42 · Feb 11, 2005, 01:46 PM

HE PROBABLY IS HAVING TROUBLE BECAUSE HE IS BLEEDING FROM HIS EARS.

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missqueenb · Feb 11, 2005, 02:24 PM

sorry, not shouting, was just arbitrarily typing or yelling.......

kaboodles · Mar 30, 2005, 12:13 PM

hey if anyone can explaint eh minds of men id liek to know. My bf just broke up with me after tellign em for 6 monthes he loved me. When he boke up he told me he hasnt loved me for over a monthe and has never missed me. I was shocked to say the elast when he told me, he never told em anythign wa wrong, never even hinted, just last week he told me he loved me and woul miss me more than anythin while he was gone. Why cant guys just explaint heir true feelings. In fact we got inot a hueg fight afew monthes ago abotu howi didnt share my feelings so i started telling him whenever iw as feeling anything, and he never even started. Dumbass he just pretended to love me nd lied to my face.

BattleAngel14745 · Apr 4, 2005, 08:04 AM

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ranieri · Jul 24, 2005, 10:37 PM

The man is dis n you big time!
I think the man thing is that they have moved on to someone or someones new and dont want to tell you. Like that book thats out "Im just not into it anymore". Cos if they come clean about what is really going on, most girls will say sayonara baby. They dont want 2nd best. Or hang around for leftovers.
Sounds like your friend is asking you or in a round about way, telling you that you should be commited to him, but dont expect the same from him. If the conversation happened the way you said then he just insulted you big time to your face.
Id find a new FB right away. peace ranieri

snuffy · Jul 26, 2005, 03:41 AM

Sounds like your man has probably been following the trusted advice from Wildcat21 on this website or he is into David Deangelos work!!!

You would go off him if he was all over you like a rash wouldnt you?

probably playing the game, I suspect, which truly is what women want!

Do you agree?

fredg · Jul 26, 2005, 05:56 AM

Hi,
Some men have a great Ego problem; that is, they hide true feelings, and feel that if they "open up", it is not a "manly" thing to do!
Look up the definitions of Ego, and it will explain a lot.
Those men who are humble, who don't talk about themselves a lot, or like to listen to others, and listen to what they say, will tell you their true feelings if asked....no problem to them.
But, Ego driven men feel no need to explain anything! They think the world is at their feet, and they don't really listen to anyone else; their thinking is the only correct thinking.
And of course, some women fit into this also.
Best wishes,
fredg



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