I really couldn't help posting this add since I have been thinking about about this for ages and the more I think and see, the more I get confused!

My girlfriend and I started seeing each other a year ago, I was married at the time and had she just broke up with her ex (probably not properly yet.. ) she has a baby girl from her, 18 moths old

Since I got to know this girl she is telling me that her baby father is crazy and he'd better not to find out about us! My girlfriend lives with her mum and I knew her ex used to go there to see the baby very regularly whenever he wants to(few times a week) so I wasn't really meant to go yo her place often just to make sure we don't bump to each other! Well at the time I was married so it was kind of acceptable.. like an agreement to keep this hidden.. even though she kept saying her baby father only come o see the baby that's all!

Finally one day when I was meant to pick her up from her place, on a Saturday morning, I met the guy!! He knew that I am her boss, no more! Well I don't know how many bosses pick the employees up on a Saturday morning to go out but the guy seemed to be relax with it!! The funny thing is that on that particular week the baby was away with her grandmum to a 1 week holiday so the baby father had no reason to come around really!! He even came around the night before she said! Well... maybe I should tell you a bit more about him so you can get the right picture.. he is kind of guys who is a but loose, no proper job or proper place to live... a total mess so I thought he just came around to kill time...

Anyway.. for the next couple of month, for the baby father, I was still the boss not more till one day her mum started to make an issue that baby father must not hand around anytime he wants.. he should come at the set time as that's crazy and there will be a big fight here one day (since we bumped to each other few times after that as well but every time he seemed so cool about it.. well I was still the boss.. even though he has told my girlfriend he thinks she is with me , etc... but my girlfriend kept denying to avoid trouble)

I know all this sounds crazy... that's probably why I really need help.. so please read till the end...

After couple of months, breaking news, that the baby father has made another baby somewhere locally... who is due in few weeks time... well this time I thought I may see some changes... why does she have to hide me from some one who is such a disrespectful prick! He slept with another woman when her baby was 4 months old...

I talked to her about this but didn't seem to make any change in our life.. she was still hiding her relationship...

Finally one evening I went around her house to see her... tried to call her but she didn't answer... she text me back that she is driving.. but her car was parked in front of her house... cut the long story short... she popped out with him for a driver.. this was shortly after the breaking news where he was not welcome in her mums house anymore at all so I thought that's why they had to go out and talk... on that night we had a big war and the baby father found everything out (I simply told him I am seeing her baby mum and he was shocked! ) he left that night not to come back anymore... well he did! Which I am glad because I don't want to go between a father and her daughter ( I am a dad too) the following day I saw him in front of her door and we had a chat in the car... I told him this is nothing personal but I just wanted to make sure we ain't dating the same girl without knowing it.. he answered NO! I ONLY COME HERE TO SEE MY BABY! However I don't really count on what comes out of his mouth as he is always stoned! )

Anyway... I got divorce and things slightly improved... she seems to be more caring and I am allowed in the house anytime.. so he is even though if my girlfriends mum hates him! He used to come at set time but recently is just any time again and my girlfriend still prefer us to avoid each other... she says he doesn't want her to move on since the baby is too small!! If we go anywhere and he calls her, she never mention my name or if we go out for dinner she says she is out with a friend

Since then he has seen me picking her up and dropping her at her house many times... he obviously must know what's going on... but again I don't think so... what the hell... honestly these lot are confusing the life out of me!!

My girlfriend is a very nice girl and I perfectly understand the concept of "kids come first" but till when this want to go ahead like this.. she says till the baby is few years older to keep contact with her dad so she can stay away from him.. I don't get the point... I seriously don't understand what this has got to do with lying to him about where she is!!

He is hated in her family and never involved in any parties or etc... it seems like he really come around for the baby but I can't figure out why she can't tell him she is out with me.. is that because he doesn't want her to leave baby alone and spend time elsewhere... is this normal? I don't have that much authority on my ex! Who does?

What's going on?!

I think its possible that she just wants to keep the hassles to a minimum, and keep peace between everyone. Though it freaks you out, let it go, and relax, as there is enough baby daddy drama, so why add more to it. Their history together is just getting started so ease off the insecurity, and drama. You both are rebounding with each other any way, so chill.

REBOUND-Jumping from a failed, or failing relationship without a proper time for healing, and carrying old emotional baggage to another relationship.

TMan is right!