Why don't I want to have sex with my girlfriend?

oupoot · #1 Nov 21, 2006, 10:33 AM

I have been going out with my girlfriend for two months now and it is going really well. We have agreed we are ready to have sex but since the discussion I have lost interest in sleeping with her. I love her with all my heart but for some reason do not want to sleep with her. I cannot find any reason why? I see it as a long term relationship and really love her? Any advice as to why I do not want to have sex with her would be appreciated, she is going to get frustrated soon..

Skell · Nov 21, 2006, 12:34 PM

that is tough for anyone to answer.

Will this be your first time? her first time?

Have you been hurt in the past by ex's that you have slept with? Girls cheating on you?

From what you have given it is tough to give you answers.

Wildcat21 · Nov 21, 2006, 02:04 PM

Are you a virgin?

Wha tare you afraid of?

WHen your with her you start out and talk. Go extremely slow. Kiss a little. Four play is to get you over those nerves as well. It's not like you see her and jump in the sack 2 minutes later - no woman wants that. Go slow - listen to her.

kp2171 · Nov 21, 2006, 09:12 PM

i dated a girl seriously from the time i was a junior in hs to past college. we didnt have "sex" (though we fooled around a lot of ways) for 3 years.

yes, years. she didnt want to and i was fine with that for a while.

you might have agreed to the idea of it, but you arent ready. fine.

dont kick yourself too much, especially if you are younger and dont have the experience.

jastheace · Nov 21, 2006, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by oupoot

I have been going out with my girlfriend for two months now and it is going really well. We have agreed we are ready to have sex but since the discussion I have lost interest in sleeping with her. I love her with all my heart but for some reason do not want to sleep with her. I cannot find any reason why? I see it as a long term relationship and really love her? Any advice as to why I do not want to have sex with her would be appreciated, she is going to get frustrated soon..

dude i think the answer is obvious ?? you either dont find her sexually attractive or your not ready to sleep with her or.....you like men ?? do you like to look at other woman and want to have sex with them or is it all woman???

ordinaryguy · Nov 22, 2006, 10:17 AM

Without answers to all the good questions asked above, it's hard to say, but my guess is that two months is just way too soon. Chill, man. Go slow. Funny how the physical and emotional bodies are often wiser than the intellect. Listen to them.



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