We were going away for the day to a pool party. I asked my gf if it was ok if I put my car in her garage. She was looking at me like why would you do that... so I explained its going to be 90 plus and I thought it would be a good idea to keep it out of the baking sun.
Later at the end of the day. She asked me why I had to put my car in her garage. She looked at me and said what I did was straight. Aren’t cars supposed to be designed to stay outside and take the heat? I mean she seems to make a big deal about this and I could not understand why she was doing this.
Then she slams me with... when we where at the party I was not social enough. Again she thought that was weird to. But, I told her wait a minute I was talking to all kinds of people. She said, well I did not see you talking only sitting there doing nothing. We where outside enjoying a pool party.
Then, she gets on me about eating too much at the party. I said eating to much what do you mean. She said, you had hamburger, hotdog, and two sausages. I said no, I did not have the hamburger. Anyway again, I could not understand why she was doing this. I asked her and she said, see I can never talk to you about what is bothering me so forget it. I told her sure talk to me. But, don’t make me feel weird. Then she, got up left the room because I would not stop talking about it. What!
Does anyone know or understand what this is about because I do not understand it. Any ideas on why she was blasting me with this crap?

J_9

Sounds to me like she may have some insecurities that she is taking out on you, you know just like the money thing. How long have you been together? Live together? Ages? These questions I am asking could all have a bearing on which way I may go with my answers.

Wildcat21

I agree........you're being WAY to insecure with her - GIVE it back to her....answer HER with questions - DON'T GIVE her straight answers here - bust on her!!! She's killing you man. You're way too uptight here. She's killing you!!!

J_9

Wildcat could very well, be right, but I hate to answer your questions with other questions, however, if I know the answers to my questions above, I could possibly guide you easier.

valinors_sorrow

I agree with the others...whatever "it" is that is bothering her, I don't think she is really talking about it.

This may be another example of not properly identifying the problem. So what you get stuck with is dealing with the endless array of symptoms.

Better sit down and, in as calm a manner as possible, get to the bottom of it.

I hope this helps.

Krs

God she sounds confused... and strange... she's strange not you!!!
was she on - time on the month? lol

Krs

RickJ - this is another one

s_cianci

She is emotionally abusing you. Stop taking it from her. Tell her upfront in no uncertain terms that you're not going to stand for it anymore and she's to treat you with the respect and dignity that any human being owes another. IF she doesn't like it, then so long sweetheart! She's not worth it.

Krs

Nice one!!!! Emotionally abusing you - cant think of a better way of puttin it.. well done S_Cianci.

talaniman

Usually pepole who abuse have been abused. If you take her abuse then you allow her to continue the cycle. Stand your own ground! You don't have to be in an abusive relationship.