why does he treat me like this?

soph69 · #1 Oct 30, 2007, 06:32 AM

ive been seeing my boyfriend now for a year and a half, at first everything was great, he was so kind and always spoiling me and was really affectionate but most importantly i could talk to him about anything; he was my best friend. but now he just doesnt seem to care, he complains and twists his face at everything, we never spend time alone together and he has nothing to say except criticise me about the way i look and things i do and make sharp hurtful comments. we are ment to be going on holiday next week and to be honest id rather he took someone else. hes not the guy i fell for. he also has no intrest in having sex withe me plus the other night i even had to ask if i could hold his hand becasue he walks off as if im invisible. i sit in the bookies for hours with him but when i want him to do something i want to do he makes excuses and its humiliating when i have to explain to my friends why he wont be coming out with us tonight and im sick of being sat like a goosberry on my own, i feel like hes ashamed of me. im even crying as i write this. ive tried telling him how i feel but he just ignores me, after all he is "always right"! hes 29 and im 18 and i really dont need this, im a preety, funny and an intelligent girl but i dont know how much more confidence knocking i can take. its as if i dont exist

Foxy459459 · Oct 30, 2007, 07:09 AM

Girl I think you just answered your own question, Your sweeting caring, funny, and a intelligent girl you dont need that. No one should ever be treated like he is treating you. Just because he is 29 and your 18 doesnt mean anything. Your 18 so mentelly your 29, and hes 29 so mentelly hes actually 12! remember that. Be good to yourself, and never settle for anything but the VERY BEST!

msprettiegirl · Oct 30, 2007, 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by soph69

ive been seeing my boyfriend now for a year and a half, at first everything was great, he was so kind and always spoiling me and was really affectionate but most importantly i could talk to him about anything; he was my best friend. but now he just doesnt seem to care, he complains and twists his face at everything, we never spend time alone together and he has nothing to say except criticise me about the way i look and things i do and make sharp hurtful comments. we are ment to be going on holiday next week and to be honest id rather he took someone else. hes not the guy i fell for. he also has no intrest in having sex withe me plus the other night i even had to ask if i could hold his hand becasue he walks off as if im invisible. i sit in the bookies for hours with him but when i want him to do something i want to do he makes excuses and its humiliating when i have to explain to my friends why he wont be coming out with us tonight and im sick of being sat like a goosberry on my own, i feel like hes ashamed of me. im even crying as i write this. ive tried telling him how i feel but he just ignores me, after all he is "always right"! hes 29 and im 18 and i really dont need this, im a preety, funny and an intelligent girl but i dont know how much more confidence knocking i can take. its as if i dont exist

I think you should suggest taking a "break" to him. See how he reacts. His reaction will be enough said.

Foxy459459 · Oct 30, 2007, 11:09 AM

Thats a real good idea, then you can tell how he really feels.

lesleyanne_g · Jun 18, 2008, 04:24 AM

as above - definatly take a break from him - u almost had me crying reading that

Guys always change, their amazing at the start - would do anything for you, until they feel comfortable enough to be their real selves.

I would just suggest taking a break, and if you feel any happier with yourself and notice that your happierwithout him, then you know what to do.

Hope it all works out ok xo



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