My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months. He's a single dad and I'm a single mother of 7 year olds. He asked me to marry him after three months, and then got cold feet and called it off. We are going to a wedding in a different state and he just told me that he is ready to call it off, because I was "mean" to him. It seems to me, that about 90% of the time, he doesn't answer his phone when I call. I was aggravated about it yesterday, and left him a message stating that I like it when he answers his phone, and when he is not TOO busy, to call me, if he wants to. Ok, I did say it sarcastically, but still. He has asked me (and my child) to move with him to a different state, but can't promise me a relationship, food on the table, a place to live, etc....His mother doesn't want to get involved into a bonding relationship with me (according to him), because she doesn't think our relationship will last. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....my parents are conservative Christians and despise the fact that I'm with him (but they are control freaks). Not sure what to do here. I try to be nice and loving towards him, but it seems that everything that I do is not the right thing. I love this man dearly, but I can't be this sweet, considerate person he wants me to be, all the time. I have a hard shell, so to speak. What do I do concerning all the matters listed above?

Wildcat21

If it were my girlfriend and I loved her - I would do everything in my power to feed her/take care of her.

Why earth would you move? let alone consider being with him?

I think some people know the answers before they come here. But, a lot times they want tr heat what they want to hear instead of the truth.

s_cianci

Well, you've got some decisions to make. To me it just sounds like you and he aren't compatible. It sounds like the two of you have fundamentally different beliefs and expectations concerning this sort of thing. I won't go so far as to say that it can't work and you should just end it now but it doesn't sound good to me. Maybe if you sat down with him and had an honest, heart-to-heart discussion with him about your concerns it may serve to iron out some of the doubts you're experiencing.

talaniman

Your solution is so easy. Let him move where ever and you move on with your life. Why be with someone who can't promise you a relationship? Oh! Don't forget to thank him for not marrying you. Good Luck.