I had to post this question as I find it astonishing that many people want to get back with there ex regardless of how it ended. Besides the answer "because I love him/her" because unfortanetly love isn't enough to hold a relationship together as we already discovered this. Love is only one ingredient and unfortanetly has no warranties, gurantees, or return policies. So if you can list one thing that you will absolutely miss from your ex and why you feel so inclined to have them back into your life after they disappeared and left you in the cold. If you are the one who did the leaving. How did you feel when you left?



After you post your answer think about what you wrote, review others reponses, and ask yourself can I not find these qualities in someone else?

I think for some who won't willingly admit that they really only want their ex back because of selfishness, There is a saying I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you, therefore they hang on to a relationship that is unhealthy for them because they fear the partner might just be happy with someone else and they just can't hack that, therefore they keep contacting you, and wanting updates on your life, only to put you at fault for moving on...

So feel free to post your answers I would really like to hear it..

bonbo

I more or less just answered this question in my most recent post in 'does this guy have a personality disorder or what?'

I'm still not sure if he broke up with me or if I broke up with him, but I DO know I felt very frustrated and at my rope's end when I told him I wanted to end the relationship.

After a few weeks of not having him in my life, I wonder if I really explored all of my options before I just pulled out and walked away...I wonder if I acted too hastily, out of sheer frustration...I wonder if I've made a mistake, and have possibly lost something that did have potential...

Scleros

The effortless conversation. Her scent. Her ability to surprise.


Forgiveness. Understanding - mistake? Peace of mind.


Relieved, burden lifted while simultaneously very sad, physically sick, depressed, gutted, empty, guilty, dead.


Perhaps, but how, where, and have I the energy to sift through 999,999 to find one?

jolienoire

I just read your other post, and I know how you must be feeling, I think you still have that question "what if" because your breakup didn't really have any closure, as you stated you had no idea who broke up with who, and the way it was done was hastily because of your frustration, so you regret the break up, its totally understandable, but understand that one day if he continues, you will get so fed up and tired that you will have the closure you need, that eye opener that this is not going to work... and you will leave the relationship and be comfortable with your decision... In the end no one can advice you what path to take as you know your partner better than us all, and I am pretty sure if he was on this forum telling his side perhaps he could of seen a different you, than you care to share because of course we always like to think we do everything right all the time...

Maybe when he cooks for you the next time, sneak behind him and hug him or kiss him show him you appreciate him. Perhaps instead of waiting for him to make a move, you make the move, maybe he seems distant to you because you are not inititating sometimes, stroke his ego every now and again when he does something... Men like attention too! Don't always wait on him to make a move.. Maybe you do this already and I don't know then disregard this comment but if you don't see how that helps your relationship...

in a state

-So if you can list one thing that you will absolutely miss from your ex...

his excellent,fine taste in everything...his sensuality.
if he knew a thing or two about respect,then he could become a gentleman
the rhythm,the music he made my soul create,listen and dance to.i felt close to God when i was close to him,when we were close.i swear.this is the best memory of my life and i don't believe there is anything that could compare.and i don't believe there is anyone who could take my spirit
even higher.
Dad thinks i've been brainwashing myself,i am sick and i need help.i think he's never experienced Happiness which leads me to believe that what i had is,indeed,rare

i miss feeling close to God.