How often do women ask guys out on dates? Seems like guys always have to ask/make the move and do the follow ups...lol. Not complaining....just wondering.

BlazingCold

I guess it's one of those social norms. Men are just expected to make the first move, even if the woman is head over heels for the guy. I used to think that way, waiting for the woman to make the first move. Sadly, society doesn't usually work that way.

Geoffersonairplane

It has happened to me before where the woman has made the first move but I agree with Blaze that there is a thing in society which says a man should make then first move. I don't think it really matters, if you like someone, life is too short to wait for them to make the first move.

Synnen

The only reason I stopped making the first move (back when I was dating) is that I would be turned down for being so forward. Guys were turned off by the idea of a woman who would ask THEM!

Granted, that was over 10 years ago, so maybe guys' attitudes have changed since then!

Tuscany

While it is more common now then in days past I think that women asking men out is still not the norm because women are afraid of being to forward and giving the guy the wrong impression. Also, women are creatures of emotion. It is a lot easier to do the turning down, then to be turned down.

PatBateman

Well it's defitely alot better nowadays, but it's still frustrating when the girl does nothing but say "yes" when asked. It'd be a little more comforting to have "her" ask because you won't have to second guess yourself all the time.

Just the other night, I met up with this girl and we had a great time. Chances are, she's NOT gonna ask me for a second date, but rather I'm gonna have to ask her out again. You'd think if a girl liked you she'd ask, but no sir-ee.

rol

<<You'd think if a girl liked you she'd ask, but no sir-ee.>>

well......if you like her you pursue! men are the pursuer.
You may think you would like a girl to ask you out but no, that would make you would lose attraction! Listen to what she told you, did she make any hints about things she likes to do? music, hobbies etc.
try and find something different and connected to her interests for the next date.

Capuchin

I believe that this practice probably stems back from chivalry or courtly love. It's probably something like the woman is supposed to remain pure and to not have thoughts about men until one proves themself to her.
Just nowadays we don't prove ourselves by slaying dragons, we just have a nice meal.

rol

i believe women should always keep one step behind a man!!!!!!! how r u going to feel if she starts asking you on dates etc, you will lose attraction eventually for sure!!

Maybe you are seeing other girls from the site also,or more importantly not ready for a new relationship!!!(ohh wait now , could that be perhaps the reason why you want her to ask you on a date?!) how can she be sure?.

So the only way to see if you are interested and not just looking for one thing is if you call and ask her on a date.

Allheart

Pat,

Would you prefer to be the one staring at the phone that never rings, hmmmm

The balls in your court. That's not such a bad thing. At least You know whether you will be calling, she has no idea.

Enjoy that "power" Pat. It ends there ...LOL