Why is it that some men like to put women down? I'm a very attractive, smart, funny 23 year old girl with a good career. The last guy I dated verbally abused very badly and I don't understand why? After so many years its definitley taken its toll on myself esteem, but thankfully I got out of the situation and have since moved on. He too has moved on, and with a much less attractive girl, yet he treats her well... or so I hear? I don't understand why he treated me so horribly?