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My ex doesn't know what she wants, when we were together she said she didn't want to hurt my feelings but that didn't work out. She broke up with me for another guy she likes and she told me she really wants to be friends.the last time she said that we ended up back together. If she really doesn't want to hurt me why would she want us to be friends.
It depends. If you guys were good friends before you started dating then its probably because she doesnt want to let a bad relationship ruin a good friendship. Or if you guys have mutual friends. Sometimes its one of those 'youre a nice guy and i really like you i just dont want to be with you' type of things so that they dont feel as mean. or it could be that you guys are better off as friends...idk...i dont usually say...only a couple occasions...
Nobody likes to admit when they fail in relationships. It's been my experience that women want to "stay friends" so that they can keep the benefits (shared friends, muscle, etc.) and avoid the shame of having screwed up.
I've never had a girlfriend "break up" with me, and believe me, in some relationships I deserved to get flat-out dumped. They said things like "let's take a break" or "I have some things to deal with" or in some cases I've just gotten the cold shoulder. Sometimes I think that maybe they think they're better than me, and they're doing me a favor by being so kind. But the hard truth is that when it comes to ending relationships, women are cowards.
I don't know why this is. But look at the number of battered and abused women that stay with their man. Why don't the break up? Wouldn't their lives be better without him? Chicken may not be the right word, but it's the only one that comes to mind.
i think girls want to stay friends because it fills an emotional gap that would be missing if you were to completely leave there life, but she does not feel that the relationship is right. Of course being a guy this sucks for you, because you probably like her and being friends with her makes you still want her but at the same time you must force yourself to deny her... of course there coulb be other reasons to.
some guys just have a special charisma about them that keeps girls wanting to be around them. Often as long as you have a good non argumentive relationship she can be your best loyal friend because she will be there and a true friend.
I am female and have said I wanted to remain friends with an ex before as a way of saying there are no hard feelings on my part and that there is no reason to feel uncomfortable next time they saw me. I have found that after some time has lapsed (weeks in some cases, years in others) it is easy to have a platonic relationship that is on friendly terms with an ex. I have one ex (we were together off and on for about three years) that has remained a friend of mine for close to twenty years now and we genuinely care about one another as friends although a few years passed before we were able to be close and completely honest with each other again (e.g., discussing our romantic lives). I hope things work out for you!
Well men say it too, my ex told me he wanted to be friends again someday.. but in my opinion I think its a crappy thing to say. It's like hey i'm in love with you, you idiot, I don't want to be your friend.
Didn't work so no thanks. I have enough friends, you ARE PATHETIC, never speak to me again (phone down, block block!!) - Looking back I should have said that.
Dumping a guy, telling him, "its not you its me," "your sweet," "lets be friends." Is like a kick in the nuts and a slap in the face. I mean commmoooonnn!
The best thing to do in a break up is to be honest and eye to eye! "I don't want to be with you because, ***** ****, bla bla, It is better than we don't speak anymore so we can both move on with our lives, maybe one day we can be both friends when we have both moved on, weve had some good memories, goodbye and I wish you well."
Never ever be mates with an ex if you are not over them. In most cases there is allways going to be some residual feelings and emotions flying about. Some people make it work, some don't. I have seen both sides. Personally though I don't think I could be mates with my ex for many years to come.
Ex girlfriends want to stay friends with you usually because they still love you or atleast love your company. But why dont you want to be friends with your ex is more to the point? if your realationship was stong and you got on well which you obviously did to have a relationship in the first place then there will always be somthing there on both sides. When women break up with a partner the thing that we all love to do is flaunt! no woman can deni it its a known fact! Especially if we see our ex with another woman. But the fact is, is that if you realy had feelings for your ex partner then whats the probleme with staying friends?
Well men say it too, my ex told me he wanted to be friends again someday.. but in my opinion I think its a crappy thing to say. It's like hey i'm in love with you, you idiot, I don't want to be your friend.
I feel exactly the same way. When my ex broke up with me he told me that he had fallen in love with his best female friend. He then went on to say that he wanted for he and i to remain friends. I felt as though i had been slapped in the face. I was still very much in love with him and thought we were going to have a future together. How could i remain friends with him knowing that someone else had his heart, when he still had mine.
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