At Ask Me Help Desk you can ask questions in any topic and have them
answered for free by our experts. To ask questions or participate in
answering them you must register for a free account. By registering you
will be able to:
Get free answers from experts in any of our 300+
topics.
I sent him an email this morning...people told me not to do it, but I am weak I guess...told him I was working on being less passive-aggressive, could he send me my stuff from the house, wished things could have worked out but if he has moved on nothing else to say, and hope we can both find happiness one day.
his reply? "I will send your stuff asap!" That was it.
I responded...did you read this? it wasn't really about my stuff...nevermind, just send me my stuff when you can. no need to be rude. i am out of your life for good.
I tried to take the high road and got shot down. all you people that advised me not to do this - you were right and i am sorry i let you all down!
Anyway, normally I ask a real question, but I just wanted to see if other people can relate to this drama.
Guys react like that generally from my experience. They don't find the need for fluff. He is probably hurt just like you, but guys and girls react differently. You want to be deap and generally guys don't get that. Could have just gone over his head what you were trying to convey. This is why contact right after isn't a good idea, the wound is still fresh. Things have to heal, and if you keep picking the scab it's going to take longer to get better. Everytime you pick the scab the scar gets worse too. Gross analogy, but it works.
Well, it has been 2.5 months since I moved out of the house. We were together for 4 years. I know through the grapevine that he started dating someone as soon as I left. They must have met while we were still together. I was angry and hurt. Did no contact for a while, but decided to send an email explaining my feelings because I was finding it hard to move on.
Good news is I no longer feel like I want to be with him. If he can move on so fast after 4 years -- and I moved to 2 different states to be with him during those 4 years -- he is not worth the time I spent pining away for him. Just wish we could have ended things honestly and on good terms, but that is not my fault he chose to be that way about it.
ever thought he wasn't being rude? :/ you can only transfer so many emotions through email. Mabye the ! was not ment to mean he was being rude, he was just letting you know he was going to send it soon as possible.
BiWiccanAndProud that is exactly what i was thinking. Maybe that was a quick respectful you bet i will send it as soon as i can response. I think you're just still hurt and maybe a little sensitive right now. which is normal, you need time to heal.
If that is the case, then should i just not contact him, or send another email saying sorry i overreacted. i feel like i am digging myself into a hole here.
he already has a new girlfriend. that is why i am being so sensitive.
His reply was calculated. I bet a buddy told him to say it. It is the first step in moving on. Be short and to the point. He is trying to come to terms with the fact it is over. I am a man. I've done that. It's not so much a rude issue, moreso a necessary function to dispel any lingering possibility of a reconciliation. That or he moved on with another girl. It is what it is. Time for you to cut him off and emulate his treatment. Good luck.
thanks. i tried to end it on good terms - that was the whole reason for the email. i won't do anything else...there is nothing left to do so i have to leave it alone now.
it just sucks. d*mned if you do, d*mned if you don't. Thanks though. Time to move on.
thanks. i tried to end it on good terms - that was the whole reason for the email. i won't do anything else...there is nothing left to do so i have to leave it alone now.
it just sucks. d*mned if you do, d*mned if you don't. Thanks though. Time to move on.
You're welcome. It's ok, you don't have to worry, you did nothing wrong. You have the right mindset now anyways which is what is important. Time to break out the running shoes and buy an ipod. That's what I did.
Linear Mode
