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I am scared to death that I have fallen in love with pete. I have allowed myself to open up and let Pete in - but I am so scared that he is going to hurt me now that I have done so - I have never known any different.
I feel so vulberable - even though I now he is not like the others.
Permission to be blunt? Quit overthinking everything, it's gonna kill you faster than a broken heart. Enjoy it, opening up to someone makes you human, as long as it's mutual.
Thanks need karma. I do need a kick up the arse occasionally - I just can't help it though. I have been having horrible nightmares about him and my ex has even been part of these nightmares. It's not good; probably why I feel the ay I do perhaps?!
One must trust their partner, one must always to open and truthful in the relationships. I sure that you have been able to "read" Pete's moods by now. What does your senses tell you. If it comes from your heart than trust yourself.
Hi, DJ,
How long has it been since your divorce?
This is just my opinion, and in no way a Professional opinion, but I think you are just plain "scared" to allow yourself to love again right now.
It took me over 2 yrs to decide that I wanted to get married again, after my first divorce. I think I knew I was in love with my current wife, maybe a year after my first wife and I separated.
I was afraid to make a commitment again, in marriage, and at the same time, was afraid she would move on before I told her I was really serious about our relationship.
Being afraid is nothing new, and the dreams probably are your sub-conscious coming back to life in sleep. Dreams and nightmares usually happen when we are thinking about something all day long, and can't get it off our minds.
Good luck, and please just try to "take it easy", not worrying about your feelings. Give them some time.
thats just it. Well I keep telling myself he he is not going to hurt me because he treats me so well and he shows me in more way than one that he loves me (even though he has not siad it) but I have not said it either. I do trust him not to cheat on me etc it's just perhaps more so that I am scared that he made decide the relationship is not right for him or something and I may be reading the signals wrong or something. I don't know. I just had to stop and sit on my own last night because I can't get these dreams out of my head.
The bottom line is that I want him to be happy - so if he did happen then I would be fine. Just get on with my ife (I am strong enough to do that) but at the same time would not want to lose him. I am making no sense at all am I???
H,I once upset Sally,because I wanted to visit a friend,and she said that we'd already planned to visit someone else.One full dinner service,and a trip to Ikea later,we cleaned up the mess,had a laugh,and downed two bottles of wine.We never did visit any friends that day.We love each other to bits,but we still go off the rails occassionally.You and Pete have'nt reached that stage yet (god forbid),but when (if) you ever do,then you'l find out how much you love each other
H,I once upset Sally,because I wanted to visit a friend,and she said that we'd already planned to visit someone else.One full dinner service,and a trip to Ikea later,we cleaned up the mess,had a laugh,and downed two bottles of wine.We never did visit any friends that day.We love each other to bits,but we still go off the rails occassionally.You and Pete have'nt reached that stage yet (god forbid),but when (if) you ever do,then you'l find out how much you love each other
Girl it is a natural reaction. When you get used to people treating you like dirt thats what you expect from everyone else too. You gotta give him a chance though. Dont let what others have put you through be a burden on what could be the biggest love of your life. Hope you work it out.
- I just can't help it though. I have been having horrible nightmares about him and my ex has even been part of these nightmares. It's not good; probably why I feel the ay I do perhaps?!
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