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My question is...
Since we haven't been able to get pregnant. I haven't been in the mood for sex in the past 2 months he has to work really hard to get it and he is constinaly in the mood and I wan't too please him but I don't want to take like I am in the mood when I am in the mood when I am not. I have talk to him but he get sad as if I am falling out of love with him or if I don't like sex anymore... I love to have sex just have a hard time getting in the mood... :(

You're getting "in the mood" is actually mostly YOUR responsibility. He can help, of course, but unless you train your mind to be open to and responsive to his interjections, nothing he "tries" will get him anywhere.

PLEASE, please, PLEASE keep in mind that sex for you is very relational. If there are other issues dragging at you it will affect your libido.

The same is not automatically true for a man. If he has a healthy sex drive, he may be perfectly capable of keeping the other issues out of the bedroom. And sex for a man is NOT relational at its core, it is more of an imperative. Men's desire for sexual release is more primal. The fact that he loves you makes it nicer relationally, but for him doing "it" may be just about doing "it".

This isn't bad oro good, it just is. And of course there are exceptions out there, but they don't sound like they apply to you... based on your story.

PLEASE remember YOU ARE IT for him sexually. He's not supposed to entertain any other thoughts, avenues of pleasure, other women, NOTHING. He's supposed to deliver all his sexual energy to your doorstep.

He's doing that still, correct? If you close his ONLY door to sex, you cannot predict the long term damage that may do to him in other areas of your relationship.

I know it sound unfair to tell you do "do it" when you're not in the mood. But it's not any more unfair than telling him he "can't do it" when he IS in the mood. It's the same thing. The difference is a man's sexual energy, pent up over time, WILL very likely affect his mind. He may do things he would not otherwise do.

And when that happens, he will get persecuted all over again, by everyone, for being unfaithful. And he didn't want to do that anyway! It really depends on just how strong his libido is.

So, you absolutely MUST acquiesce and enjoy sexual relations with FAR more often than you say no. "Yes" needs to be the norm for BOTH of you.

When he's not in the middle of making an unwanted pass at you, some time when you're just talking, let him know you're having trouble getting in the mood, and since you WANT to say "yes" every time you possibly can, you two discuss some things that can be done to make it easier for you. Be sure the ideas aren't HIM doing all the "extra work."

Good luck, and I hope you really step back and realize how powerfully this issue can affect your marriage in other ways, and it can affect it POSITIVELY too if you err on the side of taking care of each other's needs.

Just because you haven't got pregnant yet doesn't mean you are not going to. It took me 3 years to get pregnant with my son. It will happen at the right time. Try talking to your husband to see if the two of you can come up with some ways together to get you in the mood. Reassure him that it's not that your falling out of love.