i have been single for quite a while and then all of a sudden i met a friend who i was at school with which was over 5 years ago for names sake i will call him John, well we became friends and then one day out of the blue he asked me out, we get on really well as friends and was a bit shocked when he asked me out on a date, well i agreed and we're going out this weekend for a quiet drink. my problem is that he is in the navy and he only comes home on the weekends we talk or text every day, but the problem gets worse, i work in a pub and this is where john comes home he comes to the pub on the weekend,

there is also another bloke who i have thought has been kinda cute for a few months but he was in another relationship so i thought i would never have a chance. well the other week he asked me out, i thought this was a joke as i thought he was still with his girlfriend but aparantly they had broken up, i agreed to go out with him but was under the impression that he was joking. when i realised that he was serious this is where things become a bit strange. by some strange reason i had agreed to go out on a date with both guys. the guy from the pub who had a girlfriend i will call Dave.

who should i choose

rol

keep your options open and get to know them both at this stage.
You dont need to rush things, take things SLOW and try to get to know them very well, and then you can choose.

lisa_katherin

i know both of these lads (john and Dave) pretty well, the thing that i don't want to do is turn both of them away. John is a really great guy but i feel that he is quite insecure he even said to me that if i wasn't interested in starting anything with him then he doesn't think that he could still be friends as he likes me soo much. on the other hand Dave is the kinda guy that really makes me laugh and is the right type of age that i would go for in a guy, but the downside to Dave is that he has 2 kids, i know that they don't live with him, i have had enough with kids and i don't want to have another relationship with anyone who has kids. i don't want them but hey that's just me.

if i could mix them both up i'd have the perfect guy ha ha ha.

rol

well how long has Dave broken up from his girlfriend?

lisa_katherin

Dave and his ex girlfriend have split up for 1 month.

rol

well go out with John then...i dont think a guy who runs from relationship to relationship is a good choice.

Northwind_Dagas

Sounds to me as though you have an easy decision. If you don't want a relationship with someone who has kids, why waste your time dating someone who does?

Capuchin

I agree with going with John, I think it's too soon for Dave, whether he thinks so or not.

talaniman

I vote for John, have fun and get to know each other but keep your options open for now and see how it works. Forget Dave, too much downside, but you never know who will come along now do you? Stay single and have the fun single people do.

Nohitter410

Definately John..if you look all over this site a guy with two kids only 1 month fresh removed from a relationship is not enough time for the healing process

I would say go for John and get to know him better but keep Dave at friend's length because you did say Dave makes you laugh and it doesn't hurt to have friends that keep things light and make things less stressful for you

Don't choose yet, but I would say John right now and Dave for a friend