Is a Happy New Year text ok after 3 months of NC?

bustertypsy · #1 Dec 30, 2007, 10:25 AM

I am thinking of sending my ex a Happy New Year text tomorrow night.We are split up 3 months and I have been in total NC.Does it seem a good idea or am I going to set myself back in the healing process? What if she is hoping I send her a text and I don't?
Any opinions would be very welcome

George_1950 · Dec 30, 2007, 10:33 AM

Wasting your time on it, and I would be also, so it's raining both places.

lavenderly · Dec 30, 2007, 10:38 AM

Heard of the saying that says "You are not really healed unless you are 3 years and 3 months away from a broken relationship"?

U have only 3 months of NC. Far from the ideal figure of 39 months. Ok, ok...it could be a lil exaggerated. But 3 months and u wanna text her? Don't consider it please.

U have better things to do on New Year, dont u? U mean your life is so dull that you can only think of messaging an ex? Show her that u are enjoying life now. Most importantly, do not put yourself in for temptation. 3 months' efforts must not be wasted.

allswell · Dec 30, 2007, 10:39 AM

Hello. You will most likely retard your healing process by sending her the text, particularly if you have an agenda--as in, maybe my text will make her realize how much she misses me and pave the road for reconciliation. As for her expecting a text and not getting one...well, she also has fingers and can do the texting, too.

However, if you TRULY only want to send someone you once cared for a polite, thoughtful text, with no alterior motive, with no expectations whatsoever, then do it. I doubt that that is the situation you are in, assuming you have plenty of other friends whom you can text. It sounds like you are still not over this girl, so keep up the good work, and don't send her anything.

George_1950 · Dec 30, 2007, 10:43 AM

I think a text message would be terrible. You are looking for an answer; immediate gratification. The only exception I would consider is a card with no return address. But I wouldn't do that either.

bustertypsy · Dec 30, 2007, 10:43 AM

Hey thanks folks for your replies.I was toying with the idea,but just posted to see what reaction I would receive.I don't think I would have sent the text,but your replies have reinforced that thought.That was the purpose of my post.



At Ask Me Help Desk you can ask questions in any topic and have them answered for free by our experts. To ask questions or participate in answering them you must register for a free account. By registering you will be able to: Get free answers from experts in any of our 300+ topics. Accept money for answers that you provide. Communicate privately with other members (PM). See fewer ads. Sign Up!