I am just really curious, there are alot of regulars on here and ive read their stories over the last few months. Just wondering how everyone is doing.

Personally Im at almost 3 months since the breakup. First month and a half was absolute hell, but its gotten way better. Went 55 days NC before she called me this week to ask something stupid. I thought I would be back to day 1 but an hour after talking to her I was fine again thank goodness. I still think about her WAY too much, but I have gone hours without the thought of her crossing my mind. I have focused more on work again, and am eating/sleeping properly again. Outlook is neutral (at least its not super negative). I have been seeing someone new casually but its really tough because of the whole 'my ex did this better etc' hopefully that goes away soon.


So how is everyone else doing? I feel some weird bond with all of you going through this CRAP at the same time as I.

madaman

Time to dredge this topic back up again I think.

Its been a month since I posted this one, and its been a bumpy ride. I find myself getting depressed every few days, but on the bright side its not really about her anymore. My buddy let slip last night that he saw a picture of her with the guy she left me for, and it made me feel like absolute dirt. It wore off after a couple hours but it still sucked. My buddies think im over her so they do bring up the subject every now and then. The good part to that is that apparently the guy looks like a total loser, balding and fat, but then I start thinking about the fact she left me for him. Its really a lose-lose situation to think about haha. Its slowly dawning on me how messed up she is though, and that nothing I could have done would have saved the relationship. The guy is almost 10 years older than her (shes 19) and working the night shift at a warehouse.

I plan on getting myself something great for christmas this year, to ease the pain of being alone on that cursed day.

BMI

I feel for you madman, i really do I woudn't wish these situations on my WORST ex-girl, but they happen.

I think its hard that your friends think ur over her and they bring it up. My ex knows my brothers and i let on that i'm over her (not), but i worry that they'll tell me things thinking i'm over her. I'd tell them to NEVER tell you anything, i know a pic with another dude is like an arrow through the heart, its always best not to know.

Wish i could make it go away but some things have to happen i guess. If it makes you feel any better....i hate ur ex-girlfriend and her new man too

hope it helps.

little firefly

I really wish that i could say that i'm starting to feel better, but i can't. It seems like anytime i try to move forward something happens to push me backwards again.

Unfortunately, i have to pass near where my ex bf works when i head home from my job in the evenings. Tonight on my way home i passed him and his gf leaving his work to go get something to eat together (something that he and i had done many times when we were a couple). It made me remember how very much i miss him, and that i feel so totally alone.

I just really want to be able to feel happy again.

madaman

Well I do feel sorry that you have to see them together, as I know I would be alot worse if I had to see my ex with their new person.

Is there no way to avoid seeing him? taking a different route? I can guarantee not seeing him will allow you to heal quicker. I know just seeing a picture of my ex or hearing her name, it is like a kick to the stomach every time. It can actually cause physical pain, which is crazy and I try to avoid those situations as much as possible.

little firefly

Even though it will be a couple of miles out of my way, i do think it would be best for me to take another way home. It made me feel physically sick when i saw them yesterday. I was reminded that it wasn't long ago that it was me that he was with, but now he has someone else to love.

All my friends tell me that i need to just get back out and start dating again. I would like to, but i know that i can't until i feel that i can give my full attention to whoever i'm with. It wouldn't be fair to my new guy and it wouldn't be fair to me either.

MissingHim2Much

Well it's been four months now... I'm pretty sure that i've finally grasped the concept that it's over for good, but the thing I want to know is. WHY is it when I tell myself it's time to COMPLETELY LET GO it sends me into a PANIC??? Why does the thought of totally letting him go scare the hell outta me?

chris08

I'm currently 2 and a half weeks NC. Relationship ended by my ex for no decent reason about 5 weeks ago. I look on this site everyday and the help and support i've had is undescribable. I am definately over the worst, but still going through the "what if" stage but i'm sure i'll soon get over that. I'm only 21 and it felt like my life was over, i'm also quite low on confidence at the moment, to go out and meet a new girl, i've never felt like that before so I just don't know what it is. I just feel like wanting to settle down, I know it's such an early age but do you know what I mean?

little firefly

I can totally relate to that MissingHim, I still have pics of my ex on my myspace profile. I know i need to take them off but i know that by doing that i'll be letting go and that really scares me, almost like i'm cutting him completely out of my life....I guess i should though because i know he's cut me out of his.

chris08

That happened to me my ex girlfriend wasted no time in taking the pics of me and 'us' off her myspace, it really hurt and it felt like i had been stabbed in the heart. Like she didn't care. I kept my pics of 'us' up but after a few weeks i just had to take then off i was making myself look stupid. It's the right thing to do. Do the same. Don't let them get to you, trust me. We are better than them. We will find the one for us, there's somebody out there who wants someone like me and you, just keep telling yourself that. Over n Over if you have too.

little firefly

Thanks Chris, just having someone say that makes me feel better. You're right, we ARE better than they are and there is someone out there deserving of us. I need to stop wasting my time and tears on someone who probably never deserved me in the first place. If i can just get my heart to agree with my head then i think i'll finally be ok.