I am just really curious, there are alot of regulars on here and ive read their stories over the last few months. Just wondering how everyone is doing.

Personally Im at almost 3 months since the breakup. First month and a half was absolute hell, but its gotten way better. Went 55 days NC before she called me this week to ask something stupid. I thought I would be back to day 1 but an hour after talking to her I was fine again thank goodness. I still think about her WAY too much, but I have gone hours without the thought of her crossing my mind. I have focused more on work again, and am eating/sleeping properly again. Outlook is neutral (at least its not super negative). I have been seeing someone new casually but its really tough because of the whole 'my ex did this better etc' hopefully that goes away soon.


So how is everyone else doing? I feel some weird bond with all of you going through this CRAP at the same time as I.

kuulski

It will be 3 months of NC for me in a week or so. Every day I think of her less and less. I still miss her though and wonder what is going on with her and hope she is doing well. I still cant say I wouldnt try to work it out with her eventually but right now I am in no place to be with someone. I miss her though.........

Love u Ki

:>)

Unconditional85

am in the same boat as all of you its been a month and a half for me..i still miss her a lot there is not one minute that passes by where i dont think about her...she broke up with me after datin for four years over nothing just said she was not feeling me anymore and that i was makin her happy..that really hurt bc i felt i was givin her my i spend every spare time i had with her,,helped her in anyway and always supported her with her decisions..yet this was not enough...know i hear from my mother who has seen her walkin around with another guy huggin each other..and that just kills me to know that she is movin on so quick as if a 4yr of relationship was nothin to her..I havent contact her in 2 weeks last time i did was out of anger of hearin she was already datin..i feel so stupid for havin done that..
I find some peace in readin other ppls similar issues lets me know am not alone in my feelings yet i wish none of us was goin through it...

chris08

the best of it is, we are all here crying our hearts out and one day we will all be married with a family and all happy. (talking mostly to the younger people, but you know what i mean) I too miss my ex, but what can you do? Spend every day crushed with self pity? We are all better than that, there is that special someone out there for all of us. Don't forget that.

madaman

Personally im starting to get worried, as I feel like ive reached a wall in the healing. It really bugs me because I know she is gone forever, and if I could just move on that would be great. Im worried that I might be slipping into a depression (I was on some prescription for it years and years ago) and I really dont want to get stuck in a rut.

this sucks!

kuulski

I have battled depression all my life and to be honest just recently after seeing a

therapist did I realize what was causing my grief. #1 stop beating yourself up for mistakes.

That is HUGE! We all make mistakes and it is all normal. That and also doing some

exercise have helped me sooo much! Keep focused and dont forget to be a lil bit easier

on yourself. That helped me allot! GOOD LUCK!

chris08

madaman, are you going to want to stay in this rut forever? No you don't. What things do you do in your spare time? Have you got many mates? Do you go out much? You don't need prescriptions, your better than that. You need to make the most of your life, stop getting slumped in the dumps, trust me you will meet someone else, someone better and someone who deserves you. I know I will, and I know everyone else here will too.

madaman

My family has a history of depression, but I will never go back on any prescriptions for it, so thats not a worry of mine. I have a fair amount of friends and I go out somewhere every 2nd or 3rd night right now (concerts etc). Since the breakup I have been going through up and down phases, but this down phase as of late has not changed one bit. Ive already met a couple other girls but it was way too soon and I had to stop seeing them which sucked.

kuulski

Yea I tried to see girls right away also but I just couldnt even be around them.

Good Luck! If you need to chat drop me a message.

Keep pushing!

chris08

yeah same as. I am going through the exact same thing, I can go out with my friends and have a good laugh and they are all there for me, they even talk to me about how to get over my ex. How it's her loss etc etc. I also have up and down phases, one minute i'm fine and then the next i see something or am somewhere which reminds me of me and my ex, if you know what i mean. And it hits me for a couple of minutes. It will take time, so lets just keep our heads up.

little firefly

I hit a really big wall last night as far as trying to heal myself. I went to the movies with my sister and as we were walking in i saw my ex bf at the snack counter. He was with his gf, his 5 year old son and her six year old daughter. My ex and his girl had their arms around each other and they looked like a little family. The pain i felt was indescribable. He and i used to go to the movies like that with his son and my 5 year old nephew. We used to do so many things like that together and we felt like we were a family. He looked so happy to be with her the way that he always seemed to be with me. I haven't slept all night. It's been over six months now. When is the hurt supposed to stop. I don't know how much more of it i can take.