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when you know your just about to be dumped.what do u do?
ok so i really pissed my gf (most likley ex now) and she wont return any of my texts....and all week she has been acting a bit funny with me....so what do i do...coz i know now she is about to dump me, coz she has done it twice before and i know wat she does. she doesnt text all day....then just beofre she goes to bed she tells me...this isnt working anymore. and thats it. we go weeks of not talking then we start talking again and fall all in love again. only difference this time is that i wont see her around college anymore because im finsihed. this is so hard, coz i just know its coming. and to be honest its been coming ever since saturday. wat do i do? i dont wnat her to finsih with me but i know its gonna happen.
Could you maybe talk to her?
... Everything can be sorted out or clarified by communication.
Either try to explain yourself for whatever it is that you did, or give her the space she needs to think. Two simple options, but if you are so sure that she is going to end it, and it's happened before, how is it that you don't know what to do by now?
Bigbird, I'd love to give you a greenie but sadly must spread the rep around. I agree with you though, he needs to take action into his hands. Only a fool would wait around for someone to end it.
Also, if you guys keep breaking up and going back out, that's not love, that seems like comfort. Love is sticking it out when things get tough, not hitting the road at the first sign of a speed bump. Love isn't a fairytale, sometimes you'll laugh, sometimes you'll scream no one said caring was easy(Atreyu) So maybe it's best to just hold your head up high and walk away from this very indecisive female.
Do yourself a favor, start NC. For real this time. No excuses.
Don't talk to her, don't look at her, stay away from her and everything associated with you. The longer you hang on and keep talking to her and reminding yourself of her the longer its going to take you to heal.
Neither of you know it, but she just did you a favor.
i know. strangely im starting to think she was right. that there is no future for us. i will miss her loads, she meant alot to ,e but in a way it felt a bit stale and was going round and round. i got my whole future ahead of me. and ive been wrapped in a bubble with her for the last 10 months. where we've split up loads of times befor ei know i can get over her, proper this time since im not at college anymore. although i feel completly played by her. i feel like she only kept me around so it wanst awakrd around skool time and now im gone she is fussed anymore. thats why i freake dout last nite, she seemed very off at points and has semed off the last ocuple of days and u know when u just know ur about to be dumped. well i just knew that this week it was gonna happen for some werid reason.
You actually KNEW things were untenable between you the last two times you broke up. This is just you beating yourself up for something you know full well.
No Contact and getting on with it...absolutely. And there's no subterfuge here, you're not doing it to get her to "realize what she's missed and come crawling back putting you in charge." Ugh, no, you break it off and mean it and move happily and eagerly into your waiting life.
The failure here wasn't the breaking up with her, it was the getting back together twice and having to break up twice more. Be smarter. Only stay with someone who makes you want to be a better person, someone who inspires and admires you. That's the ticket!
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