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when you know your just about to be dumped.what do u do?
ok so i really pissed my gf (most likley ex now) and she wont return any of my texts....and all week she has been acting a bit funny with me....so what do i do...coz i know now she is about to dump me, coz she has done it twice before and i know wat she does. she doesnt text all day....then just beofre she goes to bed she tells me...this isnt working anymore. and thats it. we go weeks of not talking then we start talking again and fall all in love again. only difference this time is that i wont see her around college anymore because im finsihed. this is so hard, coz i just know its coming. and to be honest its been coming ever since saturday. wat do i do? i dont wnat her to finsih with me but i know its gonna happen.
well the last text i sent her yesterday said 'dont be so haesty in throwing thsi away. take a couple pf days space from each other and speak 2 me then coz by then we will miss each other' etc....i think that just pissed her off even more. have heard nothing form her since. i know she has her show on next week, so i wont bug her at all. maybe ur right. the fact that we keep breaking up is a sign that we really shudnt be 2gther. ts werid coz i do love her but when we do get back 2gther, sometime sit just doenst feel right...which is why i got paranoid and upset on wednesday night, something was just in the air and it didnt feel right, so i kinda freaked out. she said to me yesterday 'i cant have someone just freak out on me'. do i text her goodluck for her show on tuesday morning. or do i leave it?
You told her what to do , she listened and now you are heartbroken...........80% of the guys on here (including me) did the same thing. We knew in some way that we wanted them (her) to be happy. We didn't know or want to break up, But we thought throw the bait out there to see if she would bite and if she did We would strike. When they admit that breaking up is best, we got confused. But, rememeber we suggested it.
So after the break up, we suddenly give them everything they want. Attention, Afection, Admoration....All the A words we know little about. Just move forward for yourself, and be a better dude for the next girl.
Do yourself a favor, start NC. For real this time. No excuses.
Don't talk to her, don't look at her, stay away from her and everything associated with you. The longer you hang on and keep talking to her and reminding yourself of her the longer its going to take you to heal.
Neither of you know it, but she just did you a favor.
Amen, and I'm not even a church goer.
Let her have her space and while your at it take some time to reflect about yourself. She may be "perfect in your eyes" as my almost ex was. But it wasn't until I found myself and was happy about what I found that she wanted me back.
It seems there is always a time for something. Many times people don't expect something to happen, so they unexpectedly feel miserable later. But you already feel a tomorrow, and why not let it be naturally?
When you are destined to leave somebody, you will in time. If you are meant to be together, you will finally. This might be this life's story for you.
If saying hello to someone with a smile is a start, please saying goodbye to her with a smile generously as an ending.
thats so sad but so true. me and her have had so much history, been on and off over the last 10 months til eventually when she thought i didnt care anymore, she came running back syaing she realised so much and how she wants to be with me again. we got 2gther and then i make one mistake and she goes running away again. the only time ill see her next will be next sunday at this big party. so im not gonna contact her at all, let time heal coz it seems to with her and hopefully speak 2 her then. i wont pled to get back with her. i havent told her that if thats wat she wants then its over, ive just asked her to not be so hastey in ending this and i will give her time and space over the next couple of days to think about things. if i know this girl, which i think i do, the fact that i wont get in contact with her, and she doesnt know wat im up to, will get her thinking, i reckon. yes ive hurt her now, just like she has hurt me. but i know shes doing a show on tuesday so im gonna just wish her luck tuesday morning. by then she shud've hopefully calmed down alot. although i cant see us ever getting back 2gther now, which is sad, i just wnana talk to her and not end it with a bloody text.
Are you serious? You really think a whole 5 days is going to heal you? Man you are in for a whole heep of heartache. Just leave it alone, if you're going to see her on Sunday at a party, DON'T GO TO THE PARTY! You want to heal, but want to keep pulling out the stitches. Why is this? It's over, she already ended it. There is nothing to think about, girls rarely end things on a quick impulse. She had probably been feeling this way for a long time and this incident was the last straw. I'm glad you don't see you ever getting back together now, go with that. Meet new people, enjoy life and most of all LIVE the life you want, as your own person. They call it a break up because it's broken
Don't talk to her, don't look at her, stay away from her and everything associated with you. The longer you hang on and keep talking to her and reminding yourself of her the longer its going to take you to heal.
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Originally Posted by srulik86
ive just asked her to not be so hastey in ending this and i will give her time and space over the next couple of days to think about things.
although i cant see us ever getting back 2gther now, which is sad, i just wnana talk to her and not end it with a bloody text.
You just go right ahead, and draw this out even further, and hurt yourself even more in the process, and then come back with more hurt, more confusion, and more questions.
Your not the first to ignore well meaning advice of strangers, who have been there done that. Your choice, acceptance, or closure?
your all right. ive ben through all this before with her. and ur right, obviously this was on the cars coz no one if they relaly loved someone whud end something straight away. oh well, time to move on....again!
your all right. ive ben through all this before with her. and ur right, obviously this was on the cars coz no one if they relaly loved someone whud end something straight away. oh well, time to move on....again!
You seem determined to draw this out, FINALLY admitting one truth while appearing to grab onto another falsehood.
Stop romanticizing "love"! Love is something you feel all over the place. People love indescriminantly. Feeling love or even being IN love has nothing to do in the long run with whether two people should be together. All of THAT is based on real-world things like character, beliefs, habits, lovingness (not feeling love, ACTING love) and the ability to commit.
So, smart/honest people CAN be in love and end it. The same should be the true for you. Next time you're in love, don't let it make it you stupid so you ignore who the girl really is.
Find a girl you like/love....get to know her for real, 6 months or more, then make honest evaluations about your compatibility.
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