when is too many partners too many?

miriwonders · #1 Jun 11, 2008, 02:35 AM

I have really bad memory and the other night I was super bored and feeling a bit down on myself, so I started making a list of all the guys I had been with since I became sexually active and I started to wonder, if the number of partners a year was actually the norm or was I over board.
Altho I wount say how many so far I have to say I was totally honest in the list and counted even that one night stand I wished it never happen counted the ones with and without condoms. And I've noticed the more years that have gone by the more number of partners I have been with. So when it comes to SEX and just sex, whats the avarage or how many do u guys think a gurl should have a year? Of course keep in mind, I happen to be a very sexual person who is single and comfortable with her self and most men find me attractive, but I don't wanna become a slut. So how many is a healthy number? And don't say one cause of couse that would be the ideal but unfortionally that's not what I'm askin. Thanks!

liz28 · Jun 11, 2008, 03:39 AM

First, I would want to say al because men find attractive does not mean you have to sleep with because body is your temple and you have to protect it. Having sex with random people, that you wil regret the next day, is not good. Having unprotected sex is stupid with all the std's going around or can lead to an unwanted pregnancy.

Second, most men wil sleep with anyone and get a pat on the back while the women is called a slut, really double standard.

You can have a high sex drive, that's normal but it dont have be everyone or anyone. Sometimes alcohol plays alot in your decision.

I have sex alot but it's with the person I with, because cant be anyone. I been sexual active since 17 and I count on my hand the numbers of guys I been with and I'am 28. I not judging you but just be carefull and wise with who you sleep with. I'm not sure if I answered your question but this is just my view and how I do things.

Romefalls19 · Jun 11, 2008, 04:37 AM

Tough call as it depends on how old you are. I would say anything more than 3 a year is out of hand. I won't even talk to girls my age(21 going on 22) that are off two hands. I think a girl should respect herself enough not to give herself up so easily(not saying you do) and there is a great quote about it "will you not know what to say to the boy who gets your heart someday, and your used body"

Lovelee · Jun 11, 2008, 04:42 AM

I would have to say if your in a serious relationship then obviously one. There could be one person who you may consider a friend with "benefits" too. Of course there is always the option of not having sex at all when not in a relationship but for some that is not an option.

excon · Jun 11, 2008, 04:49 AM

Hello m:

Me???? I don't have a double standard. Until they start calling men sluts who sleep around, the word isn't applicable in my opinion. So girl, screw 'em all.

excon

Synnen · Jun 11, 2008, 04:51 AM

As long as you are practicing safe sex (and you WILL from now on, I hope)---who the hell cares about a number?

I'm not on 2 hands anymore--haven't been since I was 21 or 22. Did I enjoy those encounters? Absolutely. Did I learn from them--oh god yes. Is it anyone's business but mine? Absolutely not.

As long as YOU are comfortable with the number, and with your sexuality--no one else EVER needs to know that number.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Jun 11, 2008, 05:07 AM

Get into a relationship.

The sex is 100 times better when you're with someone you care about. Then you wouldn't have to worry about being a *slut* if you're in one.

I have a friend who is 19 (female) and slept with, I believe, 30 men.

I don't know how she does it; I couldn't. She often complains to me about never being able to find a nice guy. GEE, I wonder why you can't...

Romefalls19 · Jun 11, 2008, 05:54 AM

I can't give you rep Beautiful, but you're a right. Sex with someone you're with is a lot better because feelings are involved. Even as a guy, I don't sleep around at all. It's just not my style. I know a girl who is 21 and has been with 50 some guys. THAT'S SICK

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Jun 11, 2008, 06:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

I can't give you rep Beautiful, but you're a right. Sex with someone you're with is a lot better because feelings are involved. Even as a guy, I don't sleep around at all. It's just not my style. I know a girl who is 21 and has been with 50 some guys. THAT'S SICK

You got that right! That is disturbing...

Hopefully she doesn't have an STD

I wonder what goes through a person's head to make them do that? I would feel dirty and guilty afterwards. That girl must not feel disgusting because she probably would have stopped after #20.

EWWW!



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