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hi, I am 18 years old and me and my bf have been together for a little over four months. we live together and we are very happy. He hasnt said i love you yet, i was just wondering if i should say it, or when i should say it...i really like him n i want to say it...im just not too sure how to...n i dont want to scare him off....
I'd have a talk with him about what love is. Not what love is to him, or to you, just what is it. That will provide a map of where to go. What is love? What is commitment? What do your parents think love and commitment are? What do your friends think?
You obviously have this backwards. You commit to living with him and him with you without knowing how you feel and share this with each other? I think it's too late for the "I love you" story since both of you have everything from each other now...why bother? You are right..you will scare him away and maybe he will not wait....on to someone else.
Next time turn it around and find out how much you are willing to give before making yourself the sacrifice.
Why are you living with him, and I assume sleeping in the same bed if you haven't made any kind of a committment? You've been living together for 4 months. Okay?, how long did you know him before that? You're only 18, and I know that 4 mos may seem like a long time to you right now, but don't rush into it or you WILL push him away.
You already did things the wrong way around by not making sure you knew where things stood before you decided to share a place together. That is why you are in the situation you are in now!
Love isn't just a feeling darlin. It's a series of steps you take to make sure you have chosen the right person. It involves responsibility, trust, respect, mutual understanding, and a whole list of things that I could go on and on about. You may have some of these things, i don't know, but it takes alot longer than 4 months of living together to get to know someones real character.
If he hasn't told you that he loves you, I wouldn't push that. Obviously he's not ready, or you wouldn't be asking this question. If he loves you he's not going anywhere, so if you love him too, you will both know it and it won't seem like it's a rush to say the words. No one should have to say it first, you will just know after time.
well i think you should talk to him! I mean i have been with my boyfriend for 17 months, he has neva said I Love You and i asked him why! He said he cares for me but does not love me yet, which is not very nice to hear when you love someone!
I mean people fall in love at different stages in a relationship, some it can take 2 months whilst it may take 2years to realise you love someone. If i was you and i felt it i would say it because it may burst out when you least expect it. but at the same time, You have 2 be careful thou because if you say it and he doesnt say it back, its not a nice feeling. which is what happend to me.
But i mean if he treats you good and cares for you, it is still a good thing. Love is just a word i suppose, but i think we all need love in a relationship at sometime. GOOD LUCK
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