hello everyone! i am in need o serious advice. this guy i am ( guessing) seeing is MAD CONFUSING! okay, first of all i have always been told to look into someones eyes, for they NEVER LIE, so here's the issue. he and i work together, were real cool, friends, you know? then one day he gathered the courage to give me his phone number. i was elated, cause i was always diggin him anyway, but because i didn't want to make an a&& of myself, i never told him, for he has this like sarcastic sense of humor, and i didn't want to embarrass myself. anyway, on our first phone conversation he asked me if i was the type of female that feels like she could take a dude's money or paycheck. i told him no and asked if i gave off that type of character. he said no, but because im so pretty, many dudes on the wing that he works all be in awe over me. anyway, 3 days later, he came over my house and we talked for hours, then, all of a sudden, we kissed, made out, then had sex(i hadn't had sex in four in a half months!oh god was it good!) afterwards, he was all giddy, trying to hide his, i dunno, happiness to get some smiles! 2 days later, he was like, man you sucked! i was really disappointed in the sex, but after a while, he was like im just playin, and we got alot closer. i asked him how he felt about me, and if he just wanted to .......you know bump uglies, and he said maybe......but everyday at work, when i come to that wing, he comes racing around the corner, follows me around, and openly plays with me. then, one day last week he tells everyone i got some fire.......( sex, but he didnt say that my sex was fire to them, he told me) then as usual, things were going so beautifully, he was calling me every other day or so, cause i told him that we dont need to smother each other with daily calls, but if he felt like calling me, he could. like i said, things were approaching the good relationship ...well almost status, until last tuesday. all of a sudden, when he came over my house, he was like, i've got feelings, yanno....i wanna get married, someday. i told him that marraige scares me, but before i could finish my sentance he began talking again,saying nobody likes him, i said i like you, whats the deal? he said you dont count. im talking about my family. then he sat down and i told him that i am really feelin him and enjoy his conversation, sense of humor and time we spend together. again, before i could finish my sentance, he started in...and was like: you dont know enough about me to like me, there is alot about me that you dont know and if you find it out,how do you know you'll still like me? i was going to answer him, but i saw pain on his face when he spoke to me....he continued: i've got alot of bagage, and im just saying, people be like why would somebody like that like him, and i think to myself, dang, why does this person like me? or does this person like me for real? i almost started crying because i never waste my feelings,time or play with ones feelings....but he started saying that we arent on the same levels, and that im out of his league...and its hard for him to start a relationship after the sex happens so soon......i cried myself to sleep, woke up numb, and went to work the next day, only to go on the wing he works to find him standing there waiting for me, smiling, and playing like usual. i was still very hurt, but i brushed my bruises off and went on. when he sat down though, i saw the same look of hurt on his face as if he's still trying to figure out if im gonna play him out like his ex did( broke up 19mnths ago) she dumped him for a guy with alot of money....i told one of my guy friends about our conversation and he said that the guy is afraid that im gonna play him, take his feelings for granted, you know all the things loosers do to people. i have called him yesterday and today, and gotten no response. usually my gut would tell me if im wasting my feelings and i should move on, but this time is not the case...my gut is saying take it slow and see what happens next....what would you do? .....misswannabewithhim
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