Hi, i'm a 19 year old guy and im gay. I work with this other kid who is 19, and i like him very much. He started telling everyone that he thinks im gorgeous and then we decided to get together and hang out. We started liking eachother so much and i was really into him, we haven t had sex or anything. About a month later, he tells me that he thinks we're "moving to fast", and he feels suffocated. All we do is talk on the phone 5 times a day and we hardly hung out, and i don't understand why or how it was "moving to fast" But he tells me he doesnt know what he wants, to have a boyfriend or not. His confusion really confuses me, and he tells me he likes me very much, but we aren't "together" anymore, but we still talk on the phone like 2 times a day. He never calls me "babe" or anything, now he calls me "Kiddo" it gets me really upset, i dont know what to think anymore, my anger from this makes me take it out on him, and i don't want to do that. What should I do? should i get over him? He never asks me to hang out, before i would always ask, he never does. If he wants to take things slow, then how come he never takes any interest or anything? Should I get over him?

Marriedguy

Is he open about his sexuality? That could be an issue. Also, I think calling someone 5 times a day is a bit much. Give him space and if he really likes he will come around.

kochi

I think its very hard to do, but worry about yourself, he will come around eventually and if he dont, well then you have your answer.

You are playing too easy and desperate; pushes people away, makes it boring.
Do your own thing, worry about yourself and what you are doing.
you cant force people to do what you want.

wish i could take my own advice.