what went so wrong?

Ezmay · #1 Sep 12, 2006, 05:29 PM

Hi,
I'd like anyone's opinion/advice on my situation.Well I can't really say I have a situation anymore, but....I lived in America for 1 1/2 years and I returned home to the UK. I didnt want to it - was due to immigration/my job. At the time I had the most lovely boyfriend and we had been going out for a year and it was great. It was heartbreaking to leave him, it would have had to have been the worst day of my life as I had no money and I didn not know if I was able to return.

As I didnt know how soon it was going to be when we would see each other again. we agreed to be friends. 6 months later ans as soon as I got on that plane he has practially forgot who I am. He treats me like crap. Gives crap reasons for why he doesnt call etc etc.And he just emailed telling he cant text because his girlfriend doesnt like it. Can someone please tell me their opinion, I usually think I have a good sense of judgement. What went wrong?

ilovcali · Sep 12, 2006, 06:00 PM

He moved on. He wasn't sure you'd ever return, just like you weren't sure. So he moved on. I think I would have done the same. In my opinion, the best break-ups are the ones where one party moves away. It is sad, but the physical distance has always made a break-up easier to swallow. And you can always chalk up the break to moving, even if there were other factors.

I think he may be being mean to you because he has moved on, and sees know reason to stay friends. Plus he has a new girlfriend and your presence may adversely effect his new relationship. He should just tell you that he can't be your friend rather than continue being mean. You should just ask him flat out. But I think the writing is on the wall, even though it doesn't say what you want it to say.

chuff · Sep 13, 2006, 01:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Ezmay

And he just emailed telling he cant text because his girlfriend doesnt like it.

You answered your own question. He's got a girlfriend and he moved on with his life. It's nothing against you personally.

Krs · Sep 13, 2006, 02:14 AM

Get over him quick.
He is not worth your surrow and pain, move on just like he has done.

I know it sucks, but at least this way you know where you stand and dont waste your precious time crying and slucking over a man who is over you.

s_cianci · Sep 13, 2006, 05:24 PM

Well, you were in a rather precarious, uncertain situation with being forced to return to the UK and everything so he probably didn't want to get serious with you, believing that he couldn't depend on you being there for him. And actually, he couldn't. Perhaps circumstances did change more in your favor but there's no way he could have predicted that. It sounds like you're just going to have to write this one off to experience. It's always important to firmly sow your own roots first before you can expect to have a successful, meaningful relationship with someone else.



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