No body likes rejection, even if it is done in a nice way. It makes you feel unatractive, undesirable and unwanted. Evan if only for a short time.

So you see a girl you like, friendly to them, talk to them and get to know them.

Problem is if you dont let her know you like her,she may see you as a friend, but if you do let her know you like her she may reject you.

What do people think the signs are that she likes you in a b/f sence, so that you can gage this before you ask her out ?

Any ideas ?

Synnen

Waaaaaay back when I was single (A long long time ago, in a galaxy far far away)...

I didn't turn guys down when they asked me out UNLESS:

1. I was dating someone else exclusively
2. They just asked me out with nothing specific in mind ("You just wanna hang out sometime" came across as lame--like the guy liked me but had no ideas of his own or just wanted to get into my pants so wanted me to choose what I liked so that he didn't have to do any work)
3. I had other plans for the time suggested
4. For whatever reason, I *really* didn't like the guy asking me out. Granted, the only times that happened, it was a female friend's ex, or a guy who had very poor personal hygiene, or one that I knew enough about to know that being alone with him for a couple of hours would make me stop being nice.
5. The guy came off as desperate. (That's scary)

Just ASK her already. I think the problem here is really that you feel THAT rejected by being turned down. Feeling that badly about it means that you've invested too much into a simple question. I agree that no one likes to be rejected....but seriously, you're just asking someone to spend time with you. Would you feel as badly if it were another guy that said "no, I'm sorry, I have plans"?

faithl

Yes, I really would just ask. I agree rejection it is painful - as someone who has recently been rejected let me tell you it is BLOODY painful - but I'm still glad I did it. Really. because otherwise you'll never know, and you'll forever be kicking yourself and thinking 'What if' If she turns you down, that's it, end of story. But if you never pluck up the courage in the first place then it will go on and on and on leave you nothing but feelings of frustration. Ask. Because I'm sure she'd be delighted.

Have courage, take a deep breath and go for it. best of luck.

talaniman

OLG, Let me point out that fear of rejection or anything else is a personal problem to be overcome. I don't know if its the many times I've been rejected, or the times that facing that fear and getting positive results is what got me over the hump, but its something that can be overcome. Just find your courage and just ask her. You may be missing some great dates unless you do.