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I (Shirley ) wants to leave my husband because he's a cheap a-- and he's all about himself, and I'm starting to notice that more and more each day, yesterday was the last straw,we had words yesterday , don't consider it arguing just, getting things off our chest, ok, my husband says he's doing everything in the house all by himself, but actually he only pays the mortgage, and his bills, I pay all utilities, buy food, buy the personals for the house, giving him 500.00 every two weeks, he says it's for the mortgage, I also take care of thirteen yr. old pain in the a-- daughter, then I pay my car note, credit card bills, and yes I have to have money for gas and work, I sometimes if not all the time have nothing in my pocket left. now he moved his sorry a-- 19yr. old son in, he doesn't work, nor does he have license, his son is a free loader, It's not fair that my husband says he's doing everything by himself, I love my husband, but I'm not in love with him anymore, I just wanna leave and get on my own, I did stop giving him the 500 every two weeks and he's mad, so thats where the blow up came from yesterday, I can't afford to give him 500 every two weeks, it's killing me. should I stay or leave?
another thing buy me being part owner of the house, Can I put his son out, legally, and my husband can't do a Da-- thing about it, I'm his wife and thats my house too (right)
your not suppose to tell me you give up!! just don't respond, I do not need any negative feed back, right now! thank God if I needed a psychriatrist, it wouldn't be you, But I do thank you for your other advice.
I am reading that you are unhappy in your marriage because you feel unappreciated...and you do not know what next to do...your husbands was not the daddy that he wanted to be to his children and he is making up for that short coming...by allowing them to use him ...some sort of guilt trip...on all parties part....your husband and his children...unless the son has a mental challenge...there is no reason that he should not be with out a drivers license...the daughter...just finds you her competition...period...now giving your husband money every two weeks and you not understanding where the monies are going...girl Chirley...wake up...the bell is ringing....you are paying for his care and keeping of his children...there should be an understanding that while the children are under his care he is to pay for child support until they finished school that is either high school or four years of college...the end...the son has to work or go to school...if he is not doing neither...you have the right to put your foot down and say h-e-double tooth picks...too the children free loading on parents are over...say no to that...the next time the daughter request monies for anything...talk after school job...since daddy is collecting extra funds for her care and keeping you from addressing your care...the reason for you working is to take care of your needs ...right?...responsibly should be the name of the game in your household ...
Now... to you... get a day off...from your many jobs and go to a day spa...have your nails and feet...back...butt...legs massages...better... yet go to a hotel...a four star rated one...and have the services stated...then sleep...you will feel better ...oh by the way...turn off the cell phone...better yet get yourself two days off...now ask yourself this question...do you want the peace that comes with no drama...
Did you sit down with your husband and tell him ...I want to be with you...and these other dramas are not necessary and will cause him to lose his marriage...all you have to listen for is these few words I do not care... after hearing those words make a future for yourself...
...do a separation...give him time to think...you have made up your mind...for you do know what you want....it is time for him to say to you that he knows what he wants...that is you first and then his grown children...he should understand that a he must show to his children that love comes with a cost...and the cost is showing responsible action towards themselves... the children need to be shown how to take care of themselves...ask for all the bills... you my dear....do not know a g-d-thing about what is going on in your home..
Sorry for the distraction...grandchildren in the room...
Again... give the necessary time to think on your situation... go to a hotel for two days...after all did you not understand the drama that will come when marrying a man with children?
Your drama events are normal for this new age family...and the children know it...yes do put your foot down and tell all ...if you have to work... so do they!... yeah!!...your husband needs an extra 500 hundred dollars and ye children could be the reason...for his needs...so go and place it in his hands...
[quote=LUNAGODDESS]I am reading that you are unhappy in your marriage because you feel unappreciated...and you do not know what next to do...your husbands was not the daddy that he wanted to be to his children and he is making up for that short coming...by allowing them to use him ...some sort of guilt trip...on all parties part....your husband and his children...unless the son has a mental challenge...there is no reason that he should not be with out a drivers license...the daughter...just finds you her competition...period...now giving your husband money every two weeks and you not understanding where the monies are going...girl Chirley...wake up...the bell is ringing....you are paying for his care and keeping of his children...there should be an understanding that while the children are under his care he is to pay for child support until they finished school that is either high school or four years of college...the end...the son has to work or go to school...if he is not doing neither...you have the right to put your foot down and say h-e-double tooth picks...too the children free loading on parents are over...say no to that...the next time the daughter request monies for anything...talk after school job...since daddy is collecting extra funds for her care and keeping you from addressing your care...the reason for you working is to take care of your needs ...right?...responsibly should be the name of the game in your household ...
Now... to you... get a day off...from your many jobs and go to a day spa...have your nails and feet...back...butt...legs massages...better... yet go to a hotel...a four star rated one...and have the services stated...then sleep...you will feel better ...oh by the way...turn off the cell phone...better yet get yourself two days off...now ask yourself this question...do you want the peace that comes with no drama...
Did you sit down with your husband and tell him ...I want to be with you...and these other dramas are not necessary and will cause him to lose his marriage...all you have to listen for is these few words I do not care... after hearing those words make a future for yourself...
...do a separation...give him time to think...you have made up your mind...for you do know what you want....it is time for him to say to you that he knows what he wants...that is you first and then his grown children...he should understand that a he must show to his children that love comes with a cost...and the cost is showing responsible action towards themselves... the children need to be shown how to take care of themselves...ask for all the bills... you my dear....do not know a g-d-thing about what is going on in your home..
Sorry for the distraction...grandchildren in the room...
Again... give the necessary time to think on your situation... go to a hotel for two days...after all did you not understand the drama that will come when marrying a man with children?
I like you advice to a cetain extent, until you said go place the 500.00 in his hands!!!! I Don't Think So!! I work too hard, for me to be broke every two weeks, I will not be broke no more!!!! I'm pretty, slim, no kids and I have two good jobs, I don't need him nor his kids or his Bull!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I've made up my mind that I'm TOO BLessed TO BE STRESSED!!!< I thank God every Morning I wake up, in my right mind, good health and strength, God has really and truly blessed me I love my husband dearly but I've had enough, I've talked to a couple of Lawyers, that told me good advice, I'm only in that house right now with him and his Zoo, because I need to save two checks which is only gonna take two weeks, from there on I'll be free of headache, and finally I'll be able to relax, I'M NEVER EVER AGAIN MARRYING NO ONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why do some people get so touchy on here?, constructive criticism is what allows a person to improve and move forward.
Truth hurts sometimes, but you can't sugar coat it!
no the truth doesn't hurt me, just like my Grandmother use to say, if you can't say something nice, then don't say it at all, but I really and truly thank you all for your advice, I prayed on it, and I know what I must and have to do now, (Thank You All) God Bless!!
no the truth doesn't hurt me, just like my Grandmother use to say, if you can't say something nice, then don't say it at all, but I really and truly thank you all for your advice, I prayed on it, and I know what I must and have to do now, (Thank You All) God Bless!!
Sometimes you might have to Sugar coat it, only because you don't know how that other person might take it, you have to know how to say things sometimes, without hurting the next person feelings.
I think she just likes the drama and wil lnever leave. Never.
A lot of this is her own doing and also not willing to change.
As far as you saying I'll never Leave, Never, "I DON'T NEED YOUR NEGATIVATY!!!!!!!.Igot on this site for some advice, NOT NEGATIVATY!!! Thank You! I'm already hurting inside,"
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