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Asked Jan 1, 2009, 09:02 PM — 27 Answers
I don't know if I am paronoid or what. My girlfriend has been ignoring me and according to her friend who I know I can trust, she says that this is starting out the same way as is did when she broke up with her last boyfriend. This was a couple of days ago but just yesterday she told me that she talked to her and found out that there was a problem, which I had no idea about. So I don't know if I am just paranoid or if there really is something that I did and that she won't tell me. What I am asking is if I should keep trying to ask what is wrong or just let things play out.

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bmc_imr4308 Posts: 42, Reputation: 10
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#11

Jan 7, 2009, 10:12 AM
Well you guys have a point, this one is more then likely already over. Even though I could guess it, I guess I was just wondering on what the hell is going through her head. From what I hear from her brother and her best friend, it seems that I didn't do to end this.
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Jan 15, 2009, 08:36 AM
Have I completely lost it
I don't know what I'm doing anymore. I finally got the chance to talk to my girlfriend last night for the first time since she started ignoring me and asked her to explain why she was ignoring me. I think she was trying to confuse me by using all these weird analogies and stuff like that, but from what I got out of it, it just doesn't seem like she into me anymore. Until recently things have been great between us and I didn't notice anything wrong. I guess what I'm asking is, should I give her space and let her work it out or should I intervene and together we can figure this out.
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Jan 15, 2009, 10:14 AM
You need to leave her alone. The more you bother her the more you're going to push her away.

You need to move on and respect her space. My ex is still bothering me after being broken up for 6 months, and let me tell you, it does no good.. He gets nowhere with me and only opens up more wounds for himself..

You need to heal, get active, meet new people, start new hobbies and better yourself.. That's really the only way to heal from the heartbreak
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Jan 15, 2009, 10:19 AM
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Originally Posted by bmc_imr4308 View Post
I don't know what I'm doing anymore. I finally got the chance to talk to my girlfriend last night for the first time since she started ignoring me and asked her to explain why she was ignoring me. I think she was trying to confuse me by using all these weird analogies and stuff like that, but from what I got out of it, it just doesn't seem like she into me anymore. Until recently things have been great between us and I didn't notice anything wrong. I guess what I'm asking is, should I give her space and let her work it out or should I intervene and together we can figure this out.
Seems to me that she isn't your girlfriend anymore...at least...she doesn't act like it. There are red flags thrown up all around your story...see the link below

Signs your relationship is coming to an end (Click Me)
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Jan 15, 2009, 10:23 AM
Follow your intincts because they would never prove you wrong and I think you know the answer.

You can't keep reaching out to someone and that person is not reaching back because after all actions speak louder than words. Even though you might want to stay and work things out remember a relationship is about two people working together to make it work or last, not one.

If she stop communicating with you and stop doing the things she used to do, then yes it might be the end and then it's time for you step back and let go.
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Jan 15, 2009, 10:26 AM
Most likely as we females do, we give the cold shoulder when trying to escape for a little downtime.

Don't hound her about what's wrong it'll only make her upset or angry. It could also be some PMS-ing but that's a simple guess.

Your best bet if you really are worried is write a heart felt note, girls love getting them it's very important that you be open with how you feel like she's ignoring you and you just want to know if everythings ok between us.
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Jan 15, 2009, 10:31 AM
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Your best bet if you really are worried is write a heart felt note, girls love getting them it's very important that you be open with how you feel like she's ignoring you and you just want to know if everythings ok between us.
I am going to use your quote here for a venting session...this is absolute BS! I don't know what kind of guy the OP is, but I am sick and tired of hearing that "girls need that," or "girls need this." I poored my heart out to my ex in a note awhile back, and she never even acknowledged it. Girls in general need to learn how to appreciate good when they have it good, period. I am not speaking for every girl, but I am tired of the guys always expected to pour their heart out and get absolutely NOTHING in return.

The OP on this thread has an obvious problem because she is NOT his girlfriend anymore...he needs to change his whole mentality. Love is a two way street, and even if she was his girlfriend, PMS or not, treating someone like this shouldn't be rewarded with a lovenote or roses...for future record, if any girls on here date a guy like me and expect me to reward you for this behaviour, you can kiss my be-hind. I devote enough of myself to someone without having to deal with that stuff...

Once again, no offense intended. I am just in a irritated mood today! I love all you guys and gals!

Guys love some beer, the remote, an HDTV, and some APPRECIATION!
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Jan 15, 2009, 11:09 AM
Forget the PMS crap! Guys don't get a pass for SFS(Sunday Football Syndrome) so there is no way my fianc? Is getting off treating me like crap because of PMS!

As far as writing a love letter, BULLSH!T!, I am not going to pour my heart out to try and get you to come back, if my actions don't tell you that I love you enough then go find another guy to help fit your perfect mold.

Ahh that struck a nerve!
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Jan 15, 2009, 11:38 AM
This is what helps me in these situations. Just read it and think about it

"Do not dwell on the past and get stuck in the why and how, because you can not change the past. Do not get stuck in the future in the maybes, what ifs, and someday, because you can not manipulate or predict the future. Instead, stay in the moment. The moment is all you have to live for. Be as happy as you can be in the moment that you are in. Accept that moments change in the blink of an eye. When that moment changes, it is the past and don’t dwell in it, because it can not be changed".
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Jan 15, 2009, 03:56 PM
No Rome, guys don't get a pass for Sunday or Monday night football let alone any other day of the week but why is it that every time a female is in one of her mood it's PMS? Also, when the Giants lost this week you would've thought that a love one past from the way he acted. I hate when my fianc? Pull that card. I hate that the
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