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This all started 5 years ago for me.
I was dating my bf John for 3 yrs. I started working an met another guy Brian an left my bf for Brian. One month later I found out I was Pregnant. SO I left Brian an got back with John. I then moved back in with my mom till I could figure things out. After I had my baby John an I moved back in together after we got our son tested to make sure John was his father. We got married an everything seemed to be working out great. Then 6 months later I ran into Brian who is also married now an started having an affair with him. In January of 06 I got pregnant an told my husband that it was Brian's. Now my daughter is 5 months an Brian still hasnt told his wife about our baby. he doesnt want to hurt her nor do I because she can not have children of her own. We have been having this affair for almost 4 yrs now an both of us have tryed to stay away from one another but have not been able to do so. Brian an I have hurt our spouses so much and have really ruined both of ur marriages. My husband an Brian's wife want to work things out with us even though they both know about the affair. The problem is we can not stop seeing eachother. I love my husband and Brian loves his wife but we are inlove with eachother. I really dont know what to do?????
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You have to get divorced. Your husband doesn't deserve this. He can't see this right now because he's devastated but he deserves better then you. He also deserves full custody and I hope you love your child and his future enough to grant that to both of them.
You cheated on your husband for almost half the time you were married and now have another mans child? You can try marriage counseling but I believe both yours and Brians marriages are doomed. Whatever you do you should keep your childs best interest in mind.
That's not true, you know very well what to do, you just don't want to do it. The same selfishness that led you to another, is the same selfishness that keeps you married, and have it on the side. Be honest, as long as you and bryan can do the wild thang, neither of you gives a rats a$$ about any one else, not even the children.
That's not true, you know very well what to do, you just don't want to do it. The same selfishness that led you to another, is the same selfishness that keeps you married, and have it on the side. Be honest, as long as you and bryan can do the wild thang, neither of you gives a rats a$$ about any one else, not even the children.
First off.. Thank you all for ur advice! I know what I'm doin is wrong and am deeply ashamed of the way I've been living my life but for u to say I dont give a rats a$$ about my children is totally wrong. To be honest I'd rather not be with John or Brain if it mean me losing my children. They are my world and I would never give my husband custody of my child. I'd rather die then let someone else raise my children. As a mother I always Put my children first no matter what. Ain't no guy worth me losing my kids.
how did his wife not know when you filed for custody, and filed for child support to make him pay for his child ??
Go I guess you did not do any of this. If you can not break the affair, let your husband have his child and move out. Your husband deserves his child and to find someone that will be true to him.
Yes, I never filed for custody or Child support An I dont need his help finacially. Like I said I'm not gunna let my husband take my child from me. I'm more than capable of taking care of my own kids thank u
Cheaters are so selfish, they aren't just your kids are they? I mean the dads have as many rights as you do. And just curious, if your so ashamed, and know your wrong, why the freak are you doing it? If you love those kids so much, why are you going down a path that is tearing their home apart. If you care so much, ask them how they feel about their mother, whoring around with a guy who has told her his family comes first, so you'll never have a clean healthy, above board life, but i guess thats the thrill of it all. Don't expect any sympathy, until you at least want a change, and are willing to try. Otherwise your just like any other selfish person who cheats on their family to scratch an itch, rather than give 100% to the lives of the people who need you. Thats selfish and disgusting.
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