what shall i do

kellie1976 · #1 Apr 26, 2008, 02:12 PM

right this is a long 1 sorry lol well i was with my bf for 2 years we have a son together we recentley split up been 6 weeks now he has his own flat but was living with us in my house whenever we argued he used to go back to his flat i was always insecure about his flat as i never felt he was 100%with me or he would of gave it up 2 be with us.latley we have been arguing via text messages he says hes going to take me to court for custody of our son also grass me up as i have used a different name for a catalogue etc well 5 days before he was telling me he loved me wanted to be here how upset and lonley he was being up his flat on his own.i have agreed he takes our son every other day overnight etc he says he dont wana be a part time dad to him but is happy to take him when it suits him his phones been off for 3 days now i texted this morning to say if you are taking our son let me know have had a few delivery reports so hes received the texts but hasant replied or rang me.i miss him being here he used to do a lot around the house etc i love him but latley whenever were around each other theres just anger between the two of us which i dont know how to deal with as he knows what buttons to press.he came here last week 130 in the morning throwing stones up at my window so i ignored him woke the next morning to find a nasty letter on my doorstep.i feel he wants me to do all the running to beg him to come back and im wondering why he hasant tried to talk to me if he loves me like he says its been 6 weeks now and the longer this goes on the worse its gona get what do i do not contact him and wait for him to come to me or just cut all ties i really dont want to end it tho as hes the best thing thats ever happened to me when its good its good were arguing more now hes not here than we ever did when he was as i say i want him back but am not prepared to do all the running as hes not meetng me half way.why so much anger between us ????????advice needed please im all out thanks (my son needs to see his dad also)

N0help4u · Apr 26, 2008, 03:34 PM

He wants to use double standards and that right there is no way to have a relationship!
I am allowed to throw stones at your window at 1:30 am and leave a nasty note if you do not answer but if you call me I don't have to respond and nothing you can do about it or else you are in the wrong for treating me poorly.

Tell him to take you to court and get his days in writing and follow the orders to a T because if you let him have him at his convenience or trade days or give him extra days
it is going to be a horrible inconvenience on your part.
If he skips a visit NO making it up.

kellie1976 · Apr 26, 2008, 11:37 PM

[quote=Fr_Chuck]You do know that spaces between sentences and a period now and then will make that large group of words alot easier to read.

The two of you need to throw text phones away and do something silly, actually call and talk to the other one. even better in person actually talk.

And do you really have a child ? how old are you two? throwing rocks at your widow, ignoring him, leaving bad notes ,

I am sorry this is just a example of two people who have not learned to talk and to also just be honest about how they feel, Everyone is so busy acting like they are the tough one or can't let the other win.[/QUO thats so true thankyou for your advice

kellie1976 · Apr 26, 2008, 11:39 PM

hi we are both 31 i have 3 sons aged 11 4 and 11 months.

kellie1976 · May 3, 2008, 04:42 AM

i was with my bf 2 years we have a son together.well hes been gone now 8 weeks and up untill the other day said he wanted to come back be a family etc then he goes to a solicitor telling them my son has a bad diet and basically i dont care for him properley they are talking about mediation i was in complete shock ....so i said fine il get a solicitor etc he then the same night tells me he loves me wants to be a family etc again.so i sent him a text saying can we talk etc never got a reply then later that evening he says politley can my dad please come get reece tommorow so i say yes fine.....he then says that the min i said i liked someone else thats when he knew there was no going back hes also said that to me b4 so i texted back saying fine lets lay this to rest no more arguing thats it...........................when his dad came i gave him the last of his belongings to let him know that i know thats it we aint ever going back.............now i feel terrable have for weeks keep crying got a knot in my belly thats there constant i dont wana be without him but he wont talk to me he dont come round anymore its like he dont care when i know he does....................and hes feeling the same way as i am what should i do even tho im hurting just let him go or try to sort it out hes not meeting me half way tho......................everyone reckons hes playing games with me .............like i should go begging cant concentrate on anything but have no choice but to get on with it as i also have a 4 year old son........shall i just wait see what happens or even tho im hurting so bad call it a day?????he goes on about not being a part time dad to our son but sometimes he hasant even bothered ive tried to ring to ask if he wants to take him out............but sometimes his phones off for days............then he accuses me of not letting him see him ..........anyone any ideas as im so confused would appreciate your comments ............thanks

kellie1976 · May 3, 2008, 08:33 AM

yeah just all seems so final then .................i feel he diddent love me to begin with to do that or even try to talk to me atleast



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