realisation of breakup(being dumped)

qetuo · #1 May 3, 2008, 03:42 AM

i had a relationship with a gal for 6 months , we had planned for our future and marriage as well..she after 6 months dumped me saying lets be frnds coz it could be a problem at her house if we are to marry and all...i agreed thinking after sometime we could get back and work things our ... it turned out that after 4 months of this , she dumped me completely over a small issue ... wat do you think i should do now ? do you think shes gone forever ?
the thing is it took me a lot of time to come out and realise wat exactly i am going thru .... i feel like my feelings were just used by her to satisfy her insecurity ...i feel like a tissue paper ...cant decide if this is a break up

nickshehe · May 3, 2008, 05:54 AM

I think 6 months is not long enough to be discussing serious plans of marriage and a future together..that being said I think you should get over her..If she bails out on you after 6 months for whatever issue(you saying its small), can you honestly convince yourself that she's appropriate for a wife?
I'm not bad mouthing the girl, but if after 6 months you're already in troubled water maybe you just aren't compatible and you should leave it at that..
I'm sorry

bigbird213 · May 3, 2008, 08:02 AM

I agree with the post above but I want to ask one question....

Is there a possibility that you were a rebound relationship? Did she just get out of a serious relationship shortly before you started dating her??

Questions to ask yourself...

JBeaucaire · May 3, 2008, 08:55 AM

You could try not being suspicious about it all. Maybe everything is exactly the way you described it... you liked each other, seriously talked about your future, then she realized she didn't feel that way (at all or just not anymore) and tried to let you down gently, ultimately that didn't work and she chose some opportune issue to break off completely.

That could all just be the truth, couldn't it? I know it hurts and you want to claim it's confusing, but that's only because you are trying to deny the simple truth of it all.

So, stop over-thinking it. She's moved on. You don't get a vote, unfortunately, you have to move on, too. The sooner the better, for you, that is.



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