What are the reasons you would not call a girl back after the first date?

Venus0517 · #1 Feb 17, 2009, 09:59 PM

I am single and new in town, so on Valentines Day I went to a club that was having a singles party. I sat at the bar and not long after I saw a guy come sit near me, so I started talking to him. We stayed there and talked for a hour or two. Then we went for a walk on the beach, then he wanted to go to this bar that he goes to alot to karaoke, so we did that and then went to get something to eat. I did go back to his place and lets just say we had a very passionate time ( against my better judgment ). The next morning we went out for breakfast then he asked for my number ( but I did not get his ) and he said he would call me, I suggested Monday would be a good day and I had a good time and would like to see him again. Have not heard from him, whats up with that?

DJ28 · Feb 17, 2009, 10:08 PM

not to be blunt but maybe he was just thinking of this as a fun night for him to just mess around with someone. or if you want to call it a one night stand.

neverme · Feb 17, 2009, 10:20 PM

Maybe it was that...

or maybe it hes just been busy..

or maybe he will call tomorrow...

or maybe he's not over the ex...

or he has been injured in some freak accident that severed the power in his index finger and that's why he's not calling...

or maybe just leave it as someone to face one dawn with and take it for what it is.

My recommendation would be to turn up anywhere you think he may go, then confront him, wailing 'how could you do this to me?' and beating your breast...No only joking, there's nothing you can do, if he doesn't call he has his reasons, ones you will probably never know, so just smile, realise that it's that someone found you attractive and move on...

Venus0517 · Feb 17, 2009, 10:44 PM

Ummmm yeah well that sucks because I was not looking for a one night stand, so I am pissed!

neverme · Feb 17, 2009, 10:51 PM

Ya I get that and it's s*** and I didn't mean to be facetious, it's just that you really are never going to answer this one..

...so take the compliment and realise that he's the one that's lost out, not you!

...he may still call it's not like it's been weeks

Venus0517 · Feb 17, 2009, 11:15 PM

Ok, lets say for conversion's sake he calls, I have totally lost interest in him and regret the whole thing, and mostly likely will not even pick up the phone. I believe is is common courtesy and the proper thing to do after spending the night with someone the first time to follow up with a 'thanks I had a nice time' that does not mean we are going to get married and have 10 kids or even see each other again. But to not do that leaves a women feeling played, how many other girls has he done this with, etc...... But I guess I am happy we had a excellent time for that day.

neverme · Feb 18, 2009, 12:55 AM

See not so bad??

kirriky · Feb 18, 2009, 04:11 AM

Sometimes one night stands are just that. Not all lead to second dates, but what's wrong with that? Look on the positive side, you had a good time on valentine's day. Maybe he's got a lot going on in his life and just wants to leave it at that, a one night stand and a good memory. I don't want to sound cruel or old-fashioned but maybe if it's a serious boyfriend you're looking for, having sex at parties might not be too fruitful.

Romefalls19 · Feb 18, 2009, 05:54 AM

Sounds like a one nigh stand, but there are a thousand reasons why he hasn't called yet Don't panic so much

ardahk · Feb 18, 2009, 06:02 AM

Exactly no reason to panic, if he likes you he will call you - if not you had a good night



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