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    basketballgirl Posts: 3, Reputation: 2
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    Dec 18, 2007, 09:15 PM
    What move should I make? Or should I even make one?

    I am a high school student. I play on our girl's varsity basketball team, and I have a bit of an interest/crush on a guy from the guy's team. Our practice and game times are normally in tandem. I see him there and occaisonally in school. Recently, I admitted my interest to a friend, and she said, "Oh my god. He always talks about you. I never thought of it that way before, but he's always like, 'Oh, she's a good basketball player', 'She seems really cool', etc". I don't know if I should act on her word and initiate a conversation, but it's somewhat awkward as we've never really talked before.

    This seems incredibly juvenile, but I can't help it.

    Maybe you could help me?

    :)
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    Dec 18, 2007, 09:21 PM
    I'm old enough to be your grandmother. I've learned a lot over the years. I now regret not talking to the guy who interested me enough to make me look twice. (I regret a lot of other things, but I'll tell you those another time.)

    Make a move. Find a way to talk to him, even if it's just a quick "hi" on your way to the locker rooms. Do you ever see him outside of practice, like in the school hallway? Make a move. Wave to him while wearing a bright smile.

    If he's not interested, what have you lost? Nothing.
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    Dec 18, 2007, 09:32 PM
    I'm old enough to be your grandfather. I've learned a lot over the years. I now regret... nah, let's not go there. Wondergirl has it right, though I don't believe a quick "hi" may be enough, so do it twice. Tell him, "I need some help with my freethrows; are you available?" and smile.
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    Dec 18, 2007, 09:33 PM
    He sounds interested in you and you should not be afraid to at least try to be friends with him. You should try talking to him and maybe he will ask you out or you could ask him out. Don't be afraid. Go for it. I agree with what Wondergirl said, if he isn't interested, so what? Try your best to find someone who is interested and will love you.
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    Dec 18, 2007, 09:38 PM
    I agree with the others... what have you got to lose , but plenty to gain.

    Good luck
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    Dec 18, 2007, 09:54 PM
    Never go by what a friend says. I'm not old enough to be a grand parent. I would say handle it yourself from here out. Make sure nobody else is around and that it has nothing to do with basketball. He knows who you are. So try to talk to him off the court and not about the court. It as easy as hey (name of guy) what's going on. A good and easy way to start something up. If he talks about the court move to something else. This 1st step will tell you if you might want to go to the next level. After talking a couple of times, ask him what time he's picking you up. Good luck
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    Dec 18, 2007, 09:55 PM
    Also, don't have your friends try talking to him for you. It will make it look like you are afraid to talk to him or like you don't really like him that much. If you want him bad enough you would do it yourself.
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    Dec 18, 2007, 10:22 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by basketballgirl
    I am a high school student. I play on our girl's varsity basketball team, and I have a bit of an interest/crush on a guy from the guy's team. Our practice and game times are normally in tandem. I see him there and occaisonally in school. Recently, I admitted my interest to a friend, and she said, "Oh my god. He always talks about you. I never thought of it that way before, but he's always like, 'Oh, she's a good basketball player', 'She seems really cool', etc". I don't know if I should act on her word and initiate a conversation, but it's somewhat awkward as we've never really talked before.

    This seems incredibly juvenile, but I can't help it.

    Maybe you could help me?

    :)
    You should definitely go for it! You lose nothing by talking to him, and yeah, you could regret it later. If your friend knows him, you could always set up a casual meeting. Not like she told him "hey, I'd like you to meet someone". That might be too obvious. But next time you see them talking together approach your friend.

    Really, you should try to meet him and build a friendship. The things your friend told you are definitely signs that he has interest in you. It'll be worth it. You'll feel a lot of butterflies and will be thrilled each time you talk and connect. You have basketball in common, so you already have a connection ;)

    I think you have very good odds here... really. So go for it :)
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    Dec 18, 2007, 11:21 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by basketballgirl
    I am a high school student. I play on our girl's varsity basketball team, and I have a bit of an interest/crush on a guy from the guy's team. Our practice and game times are normally in tandem. I see him there and occaisonally in school. Recently, I admitted my interest to a friend, and she said, "Oh my god. He always talks about you. I never thought of it that way before, but he's always like, 'Oh, she's a good basketball player', 'She seems really cool', etc". I don't know if I should act on her word and initiate a conversation, but it's somewhat awkward as we've never really talked before.

    This seems incredibly juvenile, but I can't help it.

    Maybe you could help me?

    :)
    Just talk to him and see how he feel's you.Like I was just like you when I was in school and now me and my man have been together for 6y's and see my friend told me that he liked me and I would not talk to him.So one day I seen him and told him to call me and we have been together for 6y's.Go For It You Will Be Happy you do it.
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    Jul 8, 2009, 05:58 PM
    You might regret it if you don't at least talk to him about it. The worst he can do is say no he's not interested but more than likely that is not going to happen. Some guys are shy too just as girls are. I've never regreted talking to a guy. I am now married to a wonderful man because I came over my shyness. Because I thought he liked me to when we first met but I wasn't sure. I had this crush for 5 months before I said anything. Sure enough he had the same crush but I hate to think about what my life would be like if neither of us did anything about it. I wish you the best of luck.

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