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Ugh, so i did something stupid again and went on my ex's facebook. i knew it was just going to hurt me even more but, i dont know... im an idiot... Anyway, she broke up with me cus of "long distance" but i'm thinking that that was BS cus she has some other guy. I checked her inbox and she sent him these really long messages about how she's never been so in love with anyone before, and how she cant wait to be married to him. (mind you, they've been together a month) It just freakin hurts cus she said those same exact words to me, but not a month in. And now im thinking, how long has she not meant it to me?
I guess there is kind of a plus side to snooping, at least ill stop kidding myself into thinking that she'll want to come back. But it just gets me thinking, She's the one that said all that stuff to me, but she broke up with me... could he really be that much better than me? I'm pretty sure she was happy for the 2 years we spent together.
on a side note... how crazy is this--> When she came back for thanksgiving break, she was all over me and telling me that she can't wait till we're married and all that fun stuff, then she goes back to school for only 10 days, and then comes back home for xmas break and breaks up with me her first day back. It only took that guy 10 days to make her completely forget about me... what a piece of work.
Anyway, is she crazy for feeling that way towards him so soon? or is that a normal type of thing when girls break up with someone and then immediately enter another relationship?
And i just want to add, that it feels mad good to write that stuff down. I think it'll feel even better if at least one person writes back that she is indeed batsh!t crazy.
a girl's in a long distance relationship...finds a new guy..and within months she's talking about marriage + love? yeah...that's a rebound. although, don't get me wrong...some rebounds actually do work out. There's a forum that says "My ex is now getting married" or something like that, in which a lot of rebounders end up together in the long run. However, the whole...love...marriage talk...it's a way of replacing you with another dude.
If the person in question doesn't value themselves as a single person and thinks they need to latch onto someone else to make them happy then..yeah it's normal. But why would you want someone like that anyway? Feel glad to know you aren't with someone so incomplete.
And as for you, lol, stop snooping! It's not healthy. Besides, a lot of times when you find something, you still end up doubting it anyway. You need to just let it all go. And then, go work on yourself, deal with any issues you might have, so whenever you meet someone wonderful, you don't wind up snooping through her stuff...
If the person in question doesn't value themselves as a single person and thinks they need to latch onto someone else to make them happy then..yeah it's normal. But why would you want someone like that anyway? Feel glad to know you aren't with someone so incomplete.
And as for you, lol, stop snooping! It's not healthy. Besides, a lot of times when you find something, you still end up doubting it anyway. You need to just let it all go. And then, go work on yourself, deal with any issues you might have, so whenever you meet someone wonderful, you don't wind up snooping through her stuff...
Good luck with everything.
I've been doing good up until now, then you know, an idle mind... I get to wonderin... then i hate myself for snooping, then i just confirm how right i was about her. Another one of her reasons was that she needs to "find herself" and i told her that shes not gonna find herself with someone else... but yeah, if thats how she is... whatever... women... I'm getting more and more used to single life everyday anyway, i dont think i want another serious relationship until im finished, or close to finished with college.
Yea, I enjoy the single life as well, but nights get so lonely anymore, that's when I have the urge to text my ex which is a bad thing. I used to snoop just like you but then I found out an interesting thing..Ignorance is bliss, I don't know what she is doing and who she is doing it with. I know in time I'll feel better but this how I feel right now..And it sucks
I've been doing good up until now, then you know, an idle mind... I get to wonderin... then i hate myself for snooping, then i just confirm how right i was about her. Another one of her reasons was that she needs to "find herself" and i told her that shes not gonna find herself with someone else... but yeah, if thats how she is... whatever... women... I'm getting more and more used to single life everyday anyway, i dont think i want another serious relationship until im finished, or close to finished with college.
Don't beat yourself up for the snooping, just find other things to think about so you don't do it anymore. Now that you know she's pretty much not good for you, try to move on. The single life isn't so bad. I'm actually liking it. I don't have to deal with any drama. Ugh, I hate drama.
I have to be honest, as finding out things on the electronic grapevine, which may or may not be true, is hardly snoopping, but is a clear sign you have a ways to go in your healing, and maybe need to work harder. Typically LDR's only work, when both are committed for the long term, and obviously she wasn't with you, ( doubt she is now ) so be glad she isn't taking up your time anymore. You really need to see her realistically though, as we who have read your thread, see she is a needy flake, and think your stuck, and would love to apply the boot, in person to unstuck you. Good vent though. 10 points for that.
I don't have to deal with any drama. Ugh, I hate drama.
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