What I learned from a bad break up

I think it's generally pretty easy to spot when someone is on the rebound. If all they ever talk about is their ex, whether wistfully or critically, that's a pretty sure sign that they haven't healed.

Them, I'm going to add,stay in touch with your friends,and continue to pursue the things you enjoyed before the relationship,during the relationship and after.

That's a good point red-good on you for daring to trust again.

By let a man love you more than you love him I meant something more on the lines of - don't keep giving and giving and giving if you aren't getting anything in return. I'm one of those people that just keeps giving and hten eventually realizes that I haven't gotten anything back (not material but emotionally, etc). So that sentence kind of reminds me to scale back - not necessarily hold back but just not jump too fast. Does that make anysense?

Red I like your addition

11. Learn to live single life and be ok as a single before jumping into a relationship

I learnt that the break up hurts!

So do your best, listen carefully and take nothing for granted.

Good post. I've been thinking about making a post similar to this one and I'm glad you that you beat me to it.

I agree with most of your points. However, the one that I feel is the most profound and that I have thought about over a lot after certain relationships is #6. Self-preservation is something that a lot of people don't think about when they jump into a relationship because when we get the "butterflies" our logic and reason seem to shut off. We feel that this person is different than the last one we were with only because of how they make us feel at that particular moment. This is of course totally delusional and naive.

I do feel that you shouldn't love someone more than they love you because you set yourself up for disaster when they eventually leave you. In my last relationship, my ex, without a doubt expressed that she felt that she loved me more than I loved her and this upset her (she was right, but that doesn't mean that I didn't love her or abused this power). It's a double edged sword because in reality all she was saying was that she wanted to be in the position of power in our relationship. I held it all and she knew it. So her leaving me I feel basically boiled down to this one characteristic of our relationship.

This is such an interesting point because for it really has nothing to do with the dynamics within relationships but instead with peoples expectations and dreams.

Do we really, really want someone who is crazy about us? This doesn't say as much about you as you think. It says a lot more about the person who is crazy for us.

It doesn't add up.

So which one is better according to you - love whole heartedly, or have people leave you b'cos they feel they are giving up more of themselves to you than you to them?

Otherwise, nice post.

How about: A relationship is a partnership. Don't allow the individual investments to become too lopsided.

There is always give and take, but that shouldn't mean one person gives or takes more than the other person all the time.

11. A break up will hurt but you will see it was meant to be.
12. The only thing to take away from a break up is the good memories and move on.
13. A break up will make you a better person and therefore a better relationship next time around. You will want to be a better person.
14. Time does heal all wounds.
15. You will love again.
16. Life is beautiful, just go out and look at nature.
17. A life you don't live is still lost.
18. Everything happens for a reason.
19. Don't fall, just be who you are cause that's all that we need in our lives.
20. Nothing is real till its gone.